Shamil Alyautdinov: “I don’t use explosive themes, I like to blow up the brain more. Shamil Alyautdinov: biography
Shamil Alyautdinov is now the imam-khatib of the Moscow Memorial Mosque, theologian, writer, one of the leaders of the largest resource on Islam in Runet.
Areas of activity
The activity of this person cannot but amaze with the breadth of coverage: holding seminars on personal development on the territory of the Russian Federation, near and far abroad, writing books about religion, health of thoughts, soul and body, leadership of the scientific and theological council of the Spiritual Spiritual Directorate of the Russian Federation and, among other things, a happy father of five children - and all this is Shamil Alyautdinov.
The biography of Shamil Alyautdinov is full of evidence of painstaking, pious, active creative and spiritual activity, the fruit of which are his intellectual works - books, sermons, seminars, webinars, lectures and trainings, through which he seeks to reach out to the soul and heart of every person in order to help him get up on the true path.
The fact that Shamil Alyautdinov as a professional and versatile educated person is honored in circles on highest level, can be safely asserted, since he was invited as an expert to the Russian TV program "Evening with Vladimir Solovyov" in June 2015, where specialists from various industries (politics, justice, economics, religion, etc.) try to find answers to the main questions, disturbing the inhabitants of the country, and contribute to the solution of problems of a national and international character.
Main scientific works
One of his most outstanding works to date is the theological translation of the Koran, which was adapted to the realities modern life. This work is considered the first and only of its kind. In the publication of a fundamental theological treatise, Shamil Alyautdinov was helped by the education he received at the leading Muslim university, al-Azhar, and many years of deep and painstaking study of Islam.
Shamil Alyautdinov preaches and lectures in many countries. All of them are filled with conscious depth and meaning. The peculiarity of his religious public speaking is the adaptation of theological writings to the realities of life, their logical connection with psychology, sociology, neurobiology and others modern sciences about man and his relationship with the world.
"Trillionaire"
Shamil is also known for his Trillionaire project, which aims to help people come closer to understanding the rules of existence on earth, the laws, by observing which one can gain success and achieve both spiritual and material benefits. "Trillionaire" is a complex project that consists of several distinctive but interconnected parts: "Trillionaire listens", "Trillionaire thinks", "Trillionaire acts", as well as "Become the smartest and richest" in two parts and "Daily" in two formats. The project has its own website - itrillioner.com, where you can find the latest and most important news on the topic, events related to them.
Goals and mission of Shamil Alyautdinov
Among the goals that Shamil Alyautdinov pursues in his activities are the creation of a purposeful movement of the Ummah forward, the settlement of unresolved interethnic conflicts, the establishment of interreligious dialogue, the improvement of the Russian Ummah as an integral organism through a comprehensive religious and secular education.
Shamil Alyautdinov considers it his mission to convey the true Muslim values embodied in the Koran to more souls and hearts of people, so that they have all the necessary creative tools in order to become happy both in the earthly world and in Eternity.
A well-known theologian, imam of the Moscow mosque on Poklonnaya Hill Shamil Alyautdinov met his wife 18 years ago. At that time, his wife, Zilya Alyautdinova, worked in the Muslim woman magazine, which became the reason for their acquaintance. Now the couple has five children. The eldest of whom is 14 years old, and the youngest is 4. On April 23, the Alyautdinov couple arrived in Bishkek with a one-day seminar on the topic “Financial Success” and “Family Happiness”. The event was organized by the microfinance organization "Mol Bulak". Umma journalists attended this seminar and learned 20 basic tips from the Alyautdinov family.
1) Do not pounce on marmalade. The rule of postponing pleasure to a later date.
Shamil hazrat recalled an unusual experiment conducted at Stanford 40 years ago. It was attended by 600 children aged 4 years. The experimenter gave the child a piece of marmalade and before leaving said that if he did not eat it in 15 minutes, then he would be given another one. Some children ate marmalade immediately, some only when the observer left the room, and someone endured 15 minutes and received a reward. After this experiment, the children's lives were monitored for many years. The results have been amazing. The child who did not eat marmalade once, becoming an adult, achieved success, and the one who succumbed to temptation has nothing to boast of in life now.
According to Shamil hazrat, in life one must show effort, patience and strict self-discipline in order to achieve one's “marmalade”. Especially now, when there are so many temptations and distractions around.
2) Remember to have fun here and now, even if the best prospects await us in 10 years.
Although you need to postpone the most important pleasure for later, you need to stay happy in the present. You need to enjoy the process, be grateful for all the opportunities, and most importantly - try to get into the image of the person you want to become. Your brain should have a clear model of your plans, goals, your life. If you build accurate models of the future, you will be transformed and it will be easier to realize your plans.
"If you're not happy now, you'll never reach your goal"- concludes Shamil hazrat.
3) Write your life story, don't copy it from others.
In the block of "questions - answers" from one of the participants of the seminar came the question of whether it is possible for her to make nikah just to give birth to a child for herself. Hazrat Shamil did not even comment on this issue from the point of view of Sharia, but sighed sadly from the fact that this woman has such a life scenario. According to him, society puts so much pressure on women, imposing their ideas, that they begin to unwittingly believe in them.
“You have already been bullied with the words “get married as soon as possible, give birth at least for yourself”, that you have already set boundaries for yourself, you put an end to your husband and wrote in your script “to give birth for yourself”,- says hazrat.
According to him, it is necessary to include in your plans a detailed scenario of a happy family, all the qualities and characteristics of the future husband, and, God willing, Allah will give it to you. You have to believe it. As evidence, he told the story of one participant in his seminar who built happy family, although I already had doubts about it.
More than 1000 people attended the seminar
4) Constantly create new neural pathways.
According to Hazrat, the creation of new neural pathways is a very difficult, but necessary and important process. The brain will resist at first, as it has to lay down new paths and fight old ones. But then, once the creation process is complete, it becomes very easy. As an example, he spoke about his student years, when the first year at the Sharia department was very difficult for him. He encountered incomprehensible terms, memorized definitions, constantly listened to discs in Arabic, but it seemed that he did not remember or understand anything. Hazrat Shamil even began to think that it was not his. But at that moment his grandmother called him and gave him moral support. And this little support gave him strength, confidence and he continued his studies. How surprised Hazrat was when, after a while, the brain began to easily perceive absolutely all the information.
5) Money is needed not for pleasure, but for reinvestment.
In the word reinvestment, Khazrat Shamil puts the meaning of exaggerating money, investing in yourself and your loved ones, as well as investing in the next life. Hazrat Shamil noted that investing in yourself does not mean running and spending money. This means investing wisely and getting the most out of what you have invested. He cited his sports as an example. He said that when he signed up for an expensive fitness center, he visited this center 6 times a week and calculated so that each lesson cost him the minimum amount.
Investing in the next life can be done through charity and helping those in need. Every year, Shamil Alyautdinov allocates 10 percent of his income for such purposes. Last year, he set his record of $100,000 for charity.
“It was more than 10 percent of my income. And I spent many times less on my family that year, ”- says Shamil hazrat.
6) Don't tie money to your heart
Another point in matters of finance was the attitude to money as an opportunity, but not as a goal of life. According to hazrat, during crises and loss of money, it is necessary to listen to your heart and watch how it behaves: it is too nervous and worried, or it is indifferent and calm.
7) There is no concept of free time.
According to Shamil Alyautdinov, Muslims should not have free time. A person should always have priority plans and secondary ones. And as soon as there is a free window, in the form of weekends or holidays, it should be filled with secondary plans. You need to be able to spin everything around the implementation of your new story.
This is also mentioned in the hadith:
“Hurry to benefit from five things before they are replaced by other five: use youth before old age comes; use health before sickness comes; use free time until he became busy; use wealth until need arises; use your life before death overtakes you."
8) Do not overpay!
According to Shamil hazrat, a rich person buys a quality item and always at a discount. You need to know how to bargain. Also, with a large purchase, you need to contact specialists who will tell you the real price and the real need for this or that thing. For example, when buying a car, many people spend money on unnecessary parts, accessories. Also, when making a purchase, you need to pay attention to how much the operation will cost. As an example, he spoke about athletes who pump the body. To maintain such a body, a lot of money is needed: permanent fitness rooms, cocktails, proteins and other vitamins. Shamil Hazrat advises asking yourself the question: "You need it? If you are not doing this professionally (that is, it brings income), then do you need such a body, the main thing is that you have a healthy body.
9) Explain the value of money to children
Children should be able to handle money from childhood. They should be able to save them and know their value. They should not have a frivolous attitude. Hazrat Shamil, when buying expensive clothes for children, reminds them that in order for him to be able to buy these clothes now, he started working 20 years ago. It is also necessary to form their future in children, so that at the age of 16 they already have a goal and an understanding of how they will earn. Hazrat Shamil tells the children that he will invest in their education, but they should not count on buying a car and an apartment.
"What I have concerns me and your mother"- hazrat says to the children.
However, Shamil Alyautdinov reminds that children should not be told "I'm doing this for you". We must remember that you are doing this for the sake of the Almighty, no one owes you anything.
If you do not know how to count money, then they will help you spend it on unnecessary things. Especially now, in the age of bubbles. The sales sector is so developed, so much different offers and competition that will easily help you feel important and rich and get money out of you to buy completely unnecessary things.
According to Shamil Alyautdinov, another feature of spending money is that the more you lose, the lower your sensitivity to subsequent losses becomes.
“Purchasing an item now many times more expensive than its price, the next purchase with a wound markup will seem simple to you,”- says Shamil hazrat.
Hazrat recalled that the Almighty condemns wastefulness.
“O children of Adam [and Eve]! Eat, drink and do not waste. Verily, God does not love the prodigal."
(Holy Quran, 7:31)
.Secrets of family happiness from Zili Alyautdinova
1) Submit information to the husband in portions, in small parts.
According to medical research brain structure of men and women have some differences. Women are more multifunctional and can easily switch from one task to another, while men need time to switch. Therefore, Zilya Alyautdinova advised not to attack her husband with a mass of information, but to tell him in pieces so that he could digest it. Also, after returning from work, you need to give your husband time to enter the home atmosphere, so wives should not immediately pounce on their husbands with a bunch of questions and tasks.
2) 3, 7, 9 and 12 years - critical periods in children
In raising children great value has an understanding of the nature of the child, his inner experiences and changes that occur not only with his body, but also with thinking. Zila khanum identified four ages when a critical period is noticed in children - these are 3, 7, 9 and 12. At the age of 3, a child begins to be more or less independent, actively explore the world, he forms his own desire and opinion. At this time, the child may not obey his parents, hit other children. At the age of 7, the child goes to school and they begin to demand from him. This is also a big stress, since he does not understand why everyone wants something from him. At the age of 9, a social circle is formed in the child, he spends more time outside the home and he begins an internal conflict. He sees that not everything he was told about at home works on the street. That his friends were holding cigarettes that mom said were bad. He sees that the values of his religion and family are not of value to others. And the child starts to wonder "Are the parents right?" He begins to question the authority of his parents. And of course 12 years, adolescence is the most difficult stage for all children. At this time, hormones begin to play, the opinion of friends and society begins to be more important than the opinion of parents.
During all these stages, it is very important to understand children, to be on the same wavelength with them, to build trusting relationships, to monitor their circle of communication. Most importantly, we must take responsibility for the upbringing of children on ourselves, and not throw it on teachers, educators and relatives.
3) How to instill in children a love for religious practice?
In the spiritual upbringing of children, one must be patient, attentive and constant. First, it is necessary to gently remind them of the prayer.
“As soon as the children come home from school, I tell them to wash off all the burden, all the fatigue and pray. Every time I try to explain the value of prayer,- says Zila khanum.
According to her, understanding the essence and value of prayer gives children new strength and energy to perform it.
Also, a teacher on the Koran comes to the children of the Alyautdinovs once a week. Zila khanum believes that children must be able to read the Koran and know at least a few surahs by heart.
“Our goal is not to make everyone hafiz, but to make part of the Koran live in children. First 2 suras, then 5, 10, etc. Also, children should know the meanings of basic Arabic words such as Ar-Rahman, Bismillahi Rahman and Rahim, etc.” Alyautdinova says.
Thirdly, it is necessary that children communicate with Muslims and see the Muslim environment. Once a week on Saturdays, the children of the Alyautdinovs visit the madrasah, study and communicate with other Muslim children. Also in the summer they try to send children to a children's Muslim camp.
“Last year, we sent children to a Muslim camp in America. Children, firstly, practiced their English, and secondly, they were able to see that Islam is a world religion,” says Zila khanum.
Zilya Alyautdinova led the seminar in an interactive format.
4) Books should be in an accessible place.
To instill in children a love of reading, the Alyautdinovs use a "cunning" method - they scatter books around the house.
“Books should be in an accessible place. Children must see them. We have books in the living room, in the nursery, and even in the kitchen, ”- says Zila khanum.
5) Don't get emotional
According to a wife and mother with 18 years of marriage experience, there are different cases in the family: disagreements, fatigue, frustration. In times like these, it's important not to get emotional.
“When you are angry, remember the words of our Prophet (peace be upon him), who says that when one of you is angry, then let him sit down if he is standing. If his anger does not pass, then let him lie down. This hadeeth speaks of the importance of suppressing your anger and detaching yourself from the situation.”- shares Alyautdinov's advice.
Zila khanum herself, following this advice, in moments of anger tries to calm down, cool down and only after that calmly talk with her husband or children.
“When there is a misunderstanding in our family, we all sit down together, listen to the opinions of the children, me, my husband and come to the same decision. Also, when I disagree with something, I write letters to my husband.”- says Zila khanum
6) How can you not play sports. I do not understand?!
This is exactly how Zilya khanum is perplexed by the audience's questions regarding sports. She does not go to any gym, but tries to be in constant motion, to do breathing exercises and stretch marks.
“You can always steal time. For example, we walk with the children while they play, I do stretching, or I play catch-up with them, ”- says the speaker.
The participants of the seminar actively answered the questions of Zili Alyautdinova
7) Respect parents
Parents are immediately after Allah. You should always keep close contact with your parents. It is very important to talk to them, to know what they think, what they had in childhood, what they want. Zila khanum herself, although she lives in another city, often calls her parents and even writes letters with words of gratitude and love.
Alyautdinova notes that it is also necessary to respect the spouse's parents to the same extent and degree, who over time can become closer than their parents. If difficulties arise in relations with the mother-in-law, the bride needs to be flexible and show wisdom. Also, in regulating relations between the mother-in-law and the bride, the husband and his diplomacy play a huge role.
“If you only knew what a powerful woman my mother is. The mercy of the Almighty that I have a good relationship both with his wife and with his mother. The wife said what she herself went through. Her words are filled with meaning and life practice”,
Khazrat Shamil says. Immediately his wife picks her up and says:
“And the husband’s diplomacy is very important. Khazrat Shamil is a diplomat to such an extent. He maintains a good relationship with his mother and does not offend me. Therefore, husbands should work in this regard.”
8) Before the age of 18, have time to lay a strong foundation in children
Zila khanum compared the children to a drawn bow, which is about ready to release an arrow. A stretched bowstring is the time when it is necessary to lay a strong foundation in children, and an arrow released is the adult life of a child who sets off on a free voyage.
“You have to try to pawn everything you want before the age of 18. After that, the child goes into adult independent life. He will take less of your advice. You can only support and help an adult child, but you can’t educate in any way, ” Alyautdinova says.
She sadly adds that the time you can invest in a child is very short. Therefore, it is important to be on time.
9) Children need to constantly and gently repeat
The process of education is a very complex process. This is more art than science. There are no clear rules here. Although, there is one rule - you must constantly repeat. If in order to learn the multiplication table you need to strain your brain for a couple of months and then the table will be with you for the rest of your life, then with the instillation of a good habit or a good deed, everything is much more difficult. For example, in order for a child to start brushing his teeth twice a day without being reminded, you need to tell him about it for almost 12 years. From the age of one, you start brushing your teeth with him, teach him to hold a toothbrush on his own, and then all the subsequent time remind him to brush his teeth. And even under such circumstances, a child at 12 years old manages to fall asleep without brushing his teeth.
Despite the fact that the entrance to the seminars was paid, the preacher gathered full halls at the Grand Hotel Kazan. In an interview with a BUSINESS Online correspondent, Alyautdinov said that the idea of the trainings came to him after attending speeches by Canadian business coach Robin Sharma.
PAID TRAININGS FOR "THE OWN" AUDIENCE
Briefly describe who Shamil Alyautdinov. He has roots in the Nizhny Novgorod region, was born in Moscow in 1974, a graduate of one of the most respected Islamic universities in the world - Al-Azhar in Cairo. His name became widely known in 1997, when at the age of 23 he became the imam of the Moscow Memorial Mosque on Poklonnaya Hill, built on the initiative of the Spiritual Board of Muslims of the European part of Russia (it is headed by Ravil Gainutdin, a native of Kazan). Shamil Alyautdinov quickly became popular in the Muslim environment due to the fact that he contrasted very favorably with the mullahs of the older generation, who did not have such a brilliant education and did not know how to speak the same language with the youth. Alyautdinov's career took off sharply - in 2002 he was appointed deputy mufti of the DUMER for religious issues, in 2005 - the head of the scientific and theological council of the DUMER. Alyautdinov is the author of numerous articles and books on Islam, as well as the author and project manager of the popular Russian Internet site umma.ru. Against this background, the news that the imam was going to Kazan as a business coach was especially unexpected.
The start of Shamil Alyautdinov's training was preceded by a press conference. He explained why the number “trillion” appears in the name of the training. According to him, the explanation is in the book of the same name to the training - "A trillionaire listens." "The book draws analogies with Muslim values, the main focus is on the improvement of a believing person," he said. The author notes that "trillionaire" is about spiritual growth. When asked why the training is focused specifically on trillions, Alyautdinov said that when he was grateful to people for words, deeds and deeds, he used to say: “May the Almighty reward you a million times.” “I developed and felt some limitations. Then I started talking a billion times, and then a trillion times. This number fits the best.", the speaker explained.
When asked by journalists if he was trying to please non-Muslims, using time management techniques and Western technologies in his training, Alyautdinov replied that there was no such goal and it was not in his rules to adapt to someone.
In a conversation with a BUSINESS Online correspondent, the business preacher told how he came up with the idea of holding trainings. “I held presentations of my books in different cities of Russia, where an audience of 300-800 people came. And they always asked the same questions. I have seen how people's fates have changed, and therefore I want to work with them to take them to a new level. he explained. - And paid trainings are only for my audience to come. For example, in Kazan, we did not expect such a stir, so we had to conduct a training for two days.. When asked about the audience, the interlocutor replied that he focuses on young people from 23-25 years old.
The price for training in Kazan ranged from 1.1 thousand to 1.5 thousand rubles. The speaker notes that in Kazakhstan, for example, the price of training is 3 times more expensive than in Russia.
VISITING ROBIN SHARMA
Alyautdinov told BUSINESS Online that he attended some of the trainings of famous coaches, for example, Robin Sharma (Canadian writer, one of the most famous in North America specialists in motivation, leadership - ed.). However, according to him, none of the trainings attended gave him pleasure, unlike his own. Alyautdinov called his mentors the people who ask him questions, the Arab and Turkish world, Tracey, Kiyosaki.
When asked by BUSINESS Online about whether there are similar seminars in Muslim countries, Alyautdinov said that he had not heard of such a thing and called his event unique. “I have not heard about such seminars in other countries. And the fact that the seminar is divided into eight topics is the thinking of a trillionaire; trillionaire scenario; how to become successful when you have nothing; find yourself; an important lesson for tomorrow's trillionaires; lead oneself; happiness and islam and trillionaire woman, - random number. Such a number was invented just like that"- said the interlocutor.
The logical question is why the lecturer himself is not a trillionaire. Alyautdinov says that he is spiritually rich. “You won’t become super-rich after such a training. For me, this is only part of the activity, I have other areas of work that I have been doing for 10-15 years. As an imam, of course, my salary is small, but I have other resources, websites. Speaking of trillions, I do not focus more on the spiritual or material part. It's about in general, a person just needs to see his possibilities "- he shared with the correspondent of "BUSINESS Online".
The practical benefits of such training, according to him, are obvious. “From my similar trainings, people take out new views, opportunities. As for my readers and listeners of sermons, many write letters and say that their lives have changed dramatically in better side , he said. - Seminars are more systematic for work in this direction, here you can get a clearer guide to becoming yourself as a person using Muslim values”.
EUR 7.5 TRILLION CASES
The trainings themselves took place on Saturday and Sunday at the Grand Hotel Kazan. The hall was full on both days. There were an equal number of girls and boys aged 18-20 and above. According to Alyautdinov, 800 people came to the seminar in two days. The speaker built his speech in the form of a free monologue, based on key thoughts. He began by highlighting the significance of his trainings: “After reading my books, some people have changed their attitude even towards Islam. They leave the seminar crying”.
Much of Alyautdinov's training was based on stories from personal experience, life situations. However, as well as his press conference, in which he paid considerable attention to the recently undergone operation. “Once on a train, I crossed paths with one person, and then mentally I wanted to continue the dialogue with him. This is an example of how we mentally spend brain energy., he said. - Scientists say that the brain works 24 hours a day, eating glucose. There are over a trillion cells in the brain. In terms of thought options, we have one and a million ideas.”.
One of the postulates of the speech was a phrase from the Koran "God gave you everything you asked for". “I know what and how people ask. Fear enslaves a person in different situations. See who you are talking to. In a poor environment, there are the words “poverty”, “lack”, in a criminal environment there are other words and internal dialogues”, he said. According to the speaker, good advice is to sit in silence for at least an hour a day, and then fears and resentments will begin to come out. At the same time, the outer world of a person is a reflection of the inner.
Another thought that the speaker tried to convey to the audience was the postulate "We are what we think". “When my brother asks how I'm doing, I answer 7.5 trillion euros. I don't have a bank account, I even got my wallet yesterday. But it's not always about money.", he clarified.
“I SUGGEST TO CHILDREN THAT AT THE AGE OF 16 THE COMPLETE INDEPENDENT LIFE WITH RESPONSIBILITY AND PROVISION BEGINS”
In the first part of the training, other, already well-known truths were voiced. For example, "life is a struggle, to one degree or another, for all of us". The speaker noted that the feeling of sadness will not appear if you do not think about it. “We need to change the components within ourselves if there is a bad mood. In order to become and remain happy, one must initially mentally draw a positive image. Believers, stay away from some of your thoughts, one verse says about possible sinful thoughts,” he said. It is also necessary, according to him, to work with inner peace. “A man should be ashamed if he pollutes his inner world negative thoughts."
“It’s very interesting what we think about the most. About myself, about the past, the future ... - Alyautdinov specified. - Each of us has a set of values, but we need to revise, we need to set more specific goals. There must be a process of paradigm shift if a person wants to change.”.
The speaker ended the first part of his speech with a question: “What does a trillionaire think about the most? About how to most fully realize oneself in this fleeting stream of life. How to become happy in both worlds through everyday deeds and actions, how to live in the present. As an example, he told about his children, he already inspires two senior schoolchildren that at the age of 16 full independent life with responsibility and security.
The BUSINESS Online correspondent, who talked during the break with the people who came to the training, found out that they are satisfied with the speaker's stories, and the ideas he tells are close to them. In the second part of the training, Alyautdinov listed the principles that, apparently, were supposed to turn the thinking of the guests who came into the thinking of trillionaires. This is, for example, the idea that everything is possible in this life, and you just need to destroy the boundaries, determine the goals that you should pay attention to.
"SAYING 'I FORGIVE' FOR SUCH TWO HUNDRED TIMES A DAY"
In his speech, the speaker repeatedly cited quotes taken from famous thinkers or from the Koran. For example, "Thinking is what you create yourself" James Borg. “This is what we watch, read, with whom we communicate. I can’t understand people who watch programs about emergencies, read the tabloids.”- explained Alyautdinov. As one of the examples for changing thinking, he cited, among other things, the "switch" technique, when you need to switch your thoughts from negative to positive, and the change of habits occurs in 21 days.
Of other thoughts, ideas, the speaker advised to force yourself to concentrate on finding a solution, set clear goals (and always in writing), read what inspires new exploits in the morning and evening, communicate only with those who are positive about people, circumstances and life in in general. Separately, the speaker touched upon such a topic as forgiveness. “Learn to forgive. Is it easy? No, forgiving is really hard. So that there is nothing left, it is difficult. In daily practice, it is useful to say “I forgive” many times, for example, two hundred times a day. We perceive the words we speak, he said.
At the end of the training, the audience heard such advice as the need to write a script of your life, hang an inspiring illustration or quote on the bathroom mirror, pay attention to what we hear and read, because our psyche contains the experience we have accumulated. Alyautdinov also advised to get rid of pessimism, to cherish positive experience.
The author, nevertheless, obviously, himself understands that only with the help of such, far from original ideas, one cannot become a trillionaire. At the end of the training, he showed a number of pictures that he would like to use for visualization. A picture with an inscription "How much money is in your head, how much money is in your wallet" he commented as follows: "This is a very simplistic approach and I don't really like it"
Photo and text: Elvira Vildanova
Known to many. He gives Friday sermons, travels around the world with seminars, writes books on topics ranging from theology to financial success. Together with him, his charming wife Zilya, the mother of five children, speaker and author of the book “Secrets of Family Happiness”, speaks to the audience.
Biography
Zilya Alyautdinova was born in 1978 in Aznakayevo, Tatarstan. At the age of 13 she entered the Lyceum in the city of Izmir, Turkey. She graduated in 1996 and returned to home country. She worked as translators, in 1997 she entered the Peoples' Friendship University, where she studied geology. At the same time she studied at the courses of DUM (spiritual management).
In her second year, she married Shamil Alyautdinov. In 2002, the first-born appeared in the family. In the same year, Zilya received a diploma.
Over the years family life the woman mastered two languages - French and English. She completed an internship at Moscow State University as a translator. In 2016, Zilya Alyautdinova became the mother of five children, whom she brings up without the help of a nanny. Zila is engaged not only in their spiritual and intellectual development but also physical. Having extensive experience in raising children, she gives lectures and shares the secrets of building family relationships.
next to her husband
The husband of Zili Alyautdinova Shamil is a preacher of Islam, he can be called an innovator in theology. Shamil offers absolutely new approach to religion and seeks to bring its canons closer to the present, to make Islam useful for self-realization and self-improvement. A versatile and extraordinary person, he conducts seminars on different topics— from theology to the Trillionaire Internet project.
Shamil is a supporter of active education and has formed a special approach to the interpretation of the Koran and theological works. His theory combines quotes from the Qur'an and the latest advances in psychology, neuroscience and psychology. The main goal of his philosophical system is to make a person successful and happy, rich spiritually and materially. Shamil travels with seminars and lectures in many countries, his wife Zilya helps him in his work.
The seminars of Shamil and Zili are a success, the halls where they hold them are always filled to the limit. The main activity of a woman is to be a mother and support her husband in everything.
Zila Khanum is a wonderful wife and perfectly copes with the role of a mother. All the children of the Alyautdinovs go in for music and sports, attend madrasahs. Their mother refused the services of a nanny. Zila is asked many questions about the family, the role of spouses in it, and the upbringing of children. Therefore, the seminars she conducts deal with these topics.
Main areas of life
The advice that Zilya gives to her listeners changes their lives for the better. She herself prepares for seminars, social projects, writes books. Zilya Alyautdinova notes that it is very important to find the right proportions between family and social activity. You can't limit yourself to just your career or family. A versatile approach enriches, makes his life full.
A mother who is raising children feels more confident and comfortable if she has some kind of employment outside the home. A woman who makes a career, but does not become a good mother, will not be happy. It is important to stick to the golden mean. Of course, questions arise: a mother of five children, how does she manage to do everything, what helps her keep her balance? Both at seminars and in her book Secrets of Family Happiness, Zilya Alyautdinova talks about four important areas of life:
- Physical - this is the human body, which needs to be looked after, adhere to proper nutrition, play sports. Otherwise, the apparatus created by the Almighty will work worse and worse over the years.
- Spiritual - all Muslims should have love for the Holy Scriptures. A person who cannot read Arabic must learn. It's easy, especially now that you have electronic versions Quran, voiced and with translation. Sermons also help to support the spiritual side of life. Zilya herself tries to listen to her husband every week. “When I pick up the Quran, it's like meeting a close friend,” she says.
- Emotional - a Muslim woman who most spends time at home, it is necessary to maintain emotional balance among the daily routine: go to visit, communicate. Be sure to be interested in the affairs and plans of the spouse. It doesn’t always work out, but when the children are sleeping, you can find time.
- Intellectual - every woman should read magazines and books. You can listen to audiobooks while doing household chores.
Family happiness
Zili Alyautdinova's lectures are based on religious norms of morality, as if "lost" in modern world. She not only wants to bring people closer to faith, to convey to them the words Holy Scripture and inspire achievements for the benefit of society, but also tells her listeners about how to be happy woman, find a life partner, choose one of the contenders for a hand and heart, how to become a caring mother.
In his debut book, Secrets of Family Happiness, the author shares recipes for family happiness with readers. Zilya Alyautdinova writes about how to find harmony within yourself, what happiness is, a pious spouse, how to add romance and color to family relationships. Talks about proper nutrition and gymnastics during pregnancy, how to quickly recover after childbirth, how to maintain femininity. Zilya pays much attention to the upbringing and spiritual development of children.
10 recipes for happiness
- Give your husband information in small parts. Women quickly switch from one thing to another. Men are arranged a little differently. Therefore, you should not “splash out” a lot of information on your husband, but give it out piece by piece. It is necessary, after returning from work, to give him a rest and enter into a homely atmosphere.
- Critical periods in a child occur at the age of 3, 7, 9, 12 years. At the age of 3, the child learns independence, they forgive him a lot, but at 7 they begin to demand something from him. At the age of 9, he forms his own social circle, and at 12, the opinion of friends is sometimes more important than the opinion of his parents. And it is very important at these stages to understand children and build trusting relationships with them.
- How to instill in children a love of religion? In spiritual education one must be patient and attentive. Constantly remind about prayer, explain its value. Children should read the Quran and learn the suras, know the meaning of the basic Arabic words.
- How to instill in your child a love of reading? In the house, books should be in plain sight. “We have books in the living room, and in the nursery, and even in the kitchen,” Zilya says.
- Don't give in to emotions. There is a place for everything in the family: frustrations, disagreements, and fatigue. At such moments, it is important not to go on about the emotions. In moments of anger, you need to calm down, cool down, and only then talk with your children or your husband.
- Do sport. There is no way to go to the gym - do breathing exercises and stretches, play with the children.
- Treat parents with respect. The father and mother stand immediately after Allah and it is very important to treat them with respect, be interested in their affairs and health, the daughter-in-law to show wisdom in relations with her mother-in-law
- Lay a strong foundation in children under 18 years of age. After the child steps into adult life, he will listen to your advice less. Therefore, it is important to be on time - there is too little time when parents can invest in a child.
- Do not be afraid to remind and repeat to the child. Just do it gently. For example, parents start brushing their teeth with their child at 2 years old, and for 12 years you need to constantly remind about it.
- Greet your husband and children with a smile. This is the key to family happiness. Smile at them even when you don't have the strength to.