How to understand by behavior. How to understand that a guy likes you, obvious and hidden signs of sympathy
The human body and soul are inextricably linked. Therefore, it is impossible to separate the character from its external manifestations. What is outside, so is inside. Human psychology by behavior and gestures makes it possible to easily determine the character. Let's learn this as well.
The appearance of a person can say a lot
If a person's clothes are distinguished by their unusualness and pretentiousness, catchiness, then this speaks of an artistic type of personality, an artistic nature. There are people who neglect appearance. After talking with them, you can easily understand whether this is his creative attitude to life or banal slovenliness.
If a person is dressed with a needle, as if he had just stepped off the catwalk, this often indicates that he wants to establish himself with the help of clothes. This is a sign of inner uncertainty and helplessness.
Appearance of a person should be in harmony with clothes, complement the image. Schizoid personality types do not adhere to this principle.
Bright colors in clothes are loved by emotional and loving people, and halftones are calm and balanced people. Often people who are hard to get used to and adapt to new circumstances wear clothes that are out of season.
Handshake
A handshake is a common form of dating men. If a person from afar comes to you with an outstretched hand, then we can say that he is cheerful and sociable, he does not hide anything behind his soul. If he still actively shakes your hand and speaks quickly, this is an active, energetic person.
Secretive people usually shake hands with the palm down and with a large bend of the arm at the elbow joint. Such a movement seems to say "I will not give anything back." Often such people turn out to be two-faced, ruthless. If your palm seems to be pressed down, then in front of you is a domineering, overwhelming and callous person.
A sluggish handshake speaks of laziness and lack of initiative. Shy and modest people shake hands awkwardly.
Communication zone
Human psychology by behavior helps to recognize people who are unpleasant and annoying.
Aggressive and unceremonious people are unpleasant in communication. They often break the allowed distance. You feel this subconsciously. They may pat you on the shoulder. Hold your hand for a long time or look into your eyes. If an unfamiliar person approaches you very close, less than 50 cm, then this causes a desire to move away, as well as anger and indignation.
Shy, insecure people keep a long distance.
The longer people communicate and become closer to each other, the distance between them decreases.
Posture, gait, gestures and facial expressions
Human psychology in terms of behavior and gestures is not always as simple and unambiguous as it might seem at first glance.
Since a person is brought up from childhood to adhere to certain rules and norms of behavior, it is sometimes very difficult to determine the character of a person. For example, it is difficult to judge by a smile what is happening in a person’s soul, because it can be real or “through tears”.
The duality of human nature also makes it difficult to understand him. If a person is soft and trouble-free, but does not want to seem like that, then he will accordingly behave differently and control his actions.
It is involuntary, unconscious movements that play an important role in understanding body language.
If a person has an asymmetrical face, then you can say. That the rational and the emotional are at odds with each other. When there is a constant internal struggle, remorse, it is very reflected on the face.
If a person has an unnatural, stiff gait (that is, legs, pelvis and lower back seem to be tightly connected), this indicates problems in the sexual sphere.
Important role play tension or relaxation of movements. When a person is relaxed, he rests his soul and is open to the perception of others.
The psychology of human behavior helps to determine character traits according to the main features:
- Carelessness and indiscipline are manifested by a lax gait, relaxed postures;
- Uncertainty and fearfulness are expressed in closed postures of arms and legs, hands in pockets or covering part of the face. Also, redness, intermittent voice give out a person who is unsure of himself. These people tend to constantly wind themselves up and make an elephant out of a fly;
- Nervousness, anxiety give out rhythmic movements of the fingers. Picking up objects, fidgeting in a chair.
- A wide and slow gait speaks of a person who wants to put himself on display. And the theatricality of gestures speaks of inflated self-esteem;
- Rectilinear and restrained movements speak of coldness, prudence of nature;
- Sharp and disordered movements speak of irritability, nervousness;
- If the movements of the body are rounded and smooth, this characterizes a person who is emotional and carefree about the world.
Eyes and gaze
Eyes reflect the inner world of a person. They are the first to react to the internal state. When we are sad, sadness appears in our eyes. If we have fun, then our eyes shine with happiness.
The look is also different. For example, hard, prickly, cold, angry, shameless, affectionate, gentle, gloomy, cunning, stubborn, confident, ferocious, excited ...
Any communication is accompanied by a look. If there is normal, calm communication, then the look will be the same. If the gaze goes into the distance, then the person is distracted or thoughtful. A sidelong glance expresses distrust, secrecy. Narrowed eyes express distrust, anger and revenge of nature.
Politicians often have such a picture when one eyebrow is raised. But the wrinkles on the forehead remain horizontal. This speaks of a strong will, neglect and hostility to the outside world.
Looking down speaks of arrogance and contempt. Conversely, a bottom-up look is about subordination and helpfulness.
A long, direct and firm look indicates that a person wants to subordinate you to his will. This is how investigators and prosecutors look during interrogations.
A "running" look characterizes people who feel fear or threat. Such eyes are often found in criminals who have spent a long time in prison, as well as scammers.
The psychology of a person by behavior and gestures sometimes helps to determine what profession a person has, what position he occupies and what social class he belongs to.
Face
When communicating, the face is the first thing you pay attention to. Here it is important to consider the nose, lips and folds near them. They will tell you a lot.
There is a so-called “suffering fold”, which gives a person a suffering facial expression. These are people with a weak character. Weak-willed, helpless and patient. Always retreating in the face of difficulties.
The strength of character is judged by the wings of the nose. If they swell strongly when breathing, then you have a temperamental and energetic person in front of you.
The corners of the mouth show general state person. The lowered corners betray a pessimist, eternally dissatisfied with life.
The degree of tension of a person shows a closed mouth. It speaks of determination and firmness of character. A slightly open mouth indicates relaxation, passivity.
Smile and laugh
All people smile and laugh differently. Laughter can be contagious, quiet, mocking, angry, sincere, barking, impudent, artificial, etc.
Pure carefree laughter shows an easy, free, laid-back nature.
If there is aggressiveness, envy, anger or contempt in a person, then these feelings prevent you from laughing easily and freely. It turns out something like "heh heh heh." Young people who want to draw attention to themselves usually "giggle". Laughter like "ho-ho-ho" seems to say: "Well, tell me too ...". It reflects arrogance, boasting, the desire to humiliate, doubt what was said.
Each person can judge the truth of a smile, relying on his intuition. She will tell you whether a person is pleasant or not, likes or dislikes, “slippery type” or “somehow he doesn’t smile like that.” Intuition rarely deceives. Human psychology by facial expressions makes it possible to determine, first of all, the sincerity of a person.
Posture
- Lowered or raised shoulders, along with a slightly stooped back and a retracted chin, speak of humility, weakness, a sense of inferiority of a person;
- Too highly raised head and protruding chest is a sign of pride, vanity and arrogance;
- A tense and immobile posture fences off sensitive and shy people from the outside world;
- Sometimes sensitive people they try to hide it, outwardly showing rigidity, coldness, as if bristling at those around them. Then a certain angularity of posture appears;
- A person with self-esteem has a free, relaxed posture with a proudly planted head. This demonstrates trust, openness and respect for people.
Human psychology in behavior and gestures has been studied for many years. This science is called body language. Achievements modern psychology in this area gave impetus to this direction, and the demand for this knowledge from a practical point of view prompted psychologists to further study the connection between the soul and the body. Since any of our inner experience, the movement of the soul causes a response in the body, facial expressions, gestures, movements.
Often we see all these external manifestations and our brain processes them instantly at the level of “pleasant - unpleasant”, “trustworthy - not trustworthy”, etc. After all, there are often situations in life when we say “something I don’t like about this person” or “what a slippery type he is”. That is, we do not know what caused such our reaction, but subconsciously we feel it. By trusting your intuition and learning a little body language, Everyday life you will be able to determine the character of a person at a glance.
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How to understand a person by his behavior
It is impossible to find out the thoughts and feelings of the interlocutor without asking about them, but some people still manage to do this. There is something that helps to unravel the inner world of another person - his behavior. How to understand a person by his behavior?
Scientific approach
Behavior is a purposeful system of sequential actions. Action is a psychophysiological act, that is, the result of a complex combination of physiological processes occurring in the body and the manifestation of the characteristics of a person's personality.
In addition to physiology and psychology, there is a third force that determines the behavior of the individual - the situation. AT different situations one can notice different aspects of the personality, despite the fact that, in general, it remains a stable system of socially significant features, regardless of the circumstances.
The same person in one situation looks like timid and indecisive, and in another like a real hero. Why? It's just that the situation, like a spotlight, can illuminate only one facet of the personality, leaving the rest in the shade. Moreover, it can be difficult to understand: is what manifested itself in this case a feature characteristic or unusual for a person?
No need to rush to draw conclusions based on a single behavioral act of a person. To really get to know a person, it will take time and more than one situation (both familiar and unusual).
folk wisdom says "To know a person, you must eat a pood of salt with him." A pood of salt is approximately equal to sixteen kilograms. It takes about two years to eat that much.
But it is possible to form a general and fairly accurate idea of a person without waiting for the years to pass. The science of psychology will come to the rescue.
Each person who sets out to understand another by his behavior becomes a researcher. In the study of behavior is always used as old as the world, but still widely used scientific method- observation.
Observation is a purposeful and organized perception and fixation of the mental phenomena of the subject. When observing an individual, the features of his behavior are noticed and recorded. At the same time, you need to try to be as objective an observer as possible.
So, in order to understand a person by his behavior, you need to observe him when he is in sight or during communication with him. Sufficient time to draw, on the basis of the results of observation, truthful generalizing conclusions not only about what a person thinks and feels in a particular situation, but also, in principle, about his personality, requires at least two weeks.
But what exactly is to be observed in a person? What components of his behavior will be the most revealing and "speaking"? And, most importantly, how to find out what this or that behavioral feature of a person means?
- Australian writer Allan Pease New language body movements”, “Relationship language”, “Why men lie and women roar” and others;
- American psychologist Paul Ekman "Psychology of lies. Lie to me if you can”, “Recognize a liar by facial expression”, others;
- other authors, for example: V. Birkenberg “The language of intonation, facial expressions, gestures”, L. Glass “Everyone lies. How to identify deception by facial expressions and gestures, N.N. Ravensky How to read a person. Facial features, gestures, postures, facial expressions.
How to read a person like an open book?
Behavior is highest level body interactions with environment. The organism must be able to perceive, preserve and transform the information coming from outside and from within itself for self-preservation and adaptation in the outside world.
Behavior refers to both action and inaction. There is more meaning in silence than in words. Behavior is a combination of both verbal (speech) and non-verbal (posture, facial expressions, gestures) acts.
Speech, that is, the verbal component of behavior, is controlled by consciousness. Non-verbal components of behavior are difficult to control. Gestures, facial expressions, postures are mostly reflex, unconscious signals. Often there is more truth in them than in words.
That is why it is so important to be able to understand the body language of the interlocutor. After all, in this way the chances of being deceived and disappointed decrease significantly, and the opportunity not to miss a suitable and desired life partner increases.
All scientists involved in the study of behavior agree that when observing a person in order to understand him, it is important to pay attention to such elements of behavior:
- Speech. Observing speech, they pay attention not so much to words as to the correspondence and coincidence of words with facial expressions. For example, if a person expresses regret in words, and poorly concealed joy is “written” on his face, his true emotion is precisely joy. If such a discrepancy is observed constantly, it can be assumed that a person often lies.
Also, when analyzing speech, the following is taken into account:
- intonation,
- speech rate,
- hesitation,
- reservations,
- the meaning of words.
Observing how and what a person most often talks about, a conclusion is made about his hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes, the level of intelligence, including emotional.
- parted mouth, wide eyes, raised eyebrows - this is surprise;
- raised corners of the mouth, a smile, raised cheekbones, narrowed eyes and wrinkles around them - joy and happiness;
- wrinkled nose, raised upper lip or one edge of the lips - disgust, contempt;
- pursed lips, tense jaw, drawn and lowered eyebrows, glitter in the eyes - anger, hatred, aggressiveness;
- raised and brought together eyebrows, raised upper eyelids and tense lower, dilated pupils, parted mouth and horizontally stretched lips - panic, fear, anxiety;
- lowered upper eyelids, look, corners of the lips - sadness.
Depending on what emotions are most often observed on a person’s face, a conclusion is made about his emotional-volitional sphere, dominant emotions and feelings, prevailing mood, attitude to life, character and temperament.
- Gait. Purposeful people walk quickly, confident people stay straight and look ahead, and insecure people look down at the ground and often shuffle their feet. If a person, even in hot weather, keeps his hands in his pockets, he is secretive and domineering. If a person looks around all the time while walking, he is anxious or afraid of something specific. If a person walks slowly, he is passive or pessimistic.
Separately, you need to observe how a person walks next to someone. If he tries to impose his pace and rhythm of walking on a companion, he is used to occupying an overwhelming position, to be a leader. If he walks nearby at the same pace, but at the same time looks forward, and not at another person, is focused on something extraneous or hides excitement. A lowered head while walking also speaks of stealth. Hands in pockets indicate that a person is comfortable and calm next to a satellite.
Avoid eye-to-eye contact people who experience negative emotions in relation to the interlocutor, hiding something from him, as well as shy individuals. A shifting look tells about a clear lie, frequent blinking is a sign of confusion or anxiety. But if the individual looks too closely into the eyes, he is either aggressive or very interested in communicating with the interlocutor.
- Poses and gestures. The closer a person strives to be to the interlocutor, the more pleasant he is to him. The tilt of the body and head forward, combined with the turn of the toes of the shoes towards the interlocutor, open gestures, a smile and a direct look indicate a clear disposition and interest. It is even more significant when a person unconsciously copies the posture and gestures of the interlocutor. Mirror reflection by interlocutors of each other is the most obvious sign of sympathy.
If a person moves away, tenses up, makes pointing gestures, crosses his arms in front of him or behind his back, and also crosses his legs, this is evidence of an unwillingness to communicate and open up to the interlocutor or a sign of a negative assessment of what is happening.
Attention should be paid to other details. For example, hair, shoes, clothes will tell about how neat, clean, serious a person is, as well as about his material well-being.
Separately, the so-called postures and flirting gestures are distinguished - non-verbal body signals indicating an interest in communicating with a person of the opposite sex.
Intuitive Understanding
No element of behavior can be considered in isolation from the others. It is in their combination that the individual style of behavior of the individual is manifested. That is how, in the aggregate of all the observed signs, behavior is considered and interpreted.
Watching a person in order to understand him, they notice not only what is, but also what is not in his actions. For example, the absence of "crow's feet" in the corners of the eyes, a natural squint in the presence of a smile, indicates the pretense of positive emotions.
It is important to take into account the fact that an observer who observes a person while communicating with him will rather notice a personal attitude, feelings, intentions towards himself, rather than the general patterns of personality behavior. Therefore, more significant are the cases when a person does not understand that his behavior is observed and evaluated, and also when he does not contact the observer.
In total, about three thousand (!) Verbal and non-verbal elements of behavior are distinguished. The ability to read a person like an open book, starting from his behavior, is a whole science.
Of course, you can thoroughly study all kinds of elements of behavior and remember their meaning, but we must not forget that there is, although not scientific, but often very accurate additional tool of knowledge - intuition.
In addition to the conscious assessment of another person, the unconscious always works. The brain reads all the information coming from the outside, and that part of it that remains unconscious is still being processed.
The conclusion that the human brain makes without the knowledge of consciousness is often expressed in intuitive knowledge. So, already at the first glance at a new acquaintance, one can say whether he likes or not, although nothing is known about him yet and it is not always clear why exactly the person liked or disliked.
By combining objective observation with intuition, one can learn to understand the inner world of people by their behavior.
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Human psychology by behavior and gestures: learning to determine
The human body and soul are inextricably linked. Therefore, it is impossible to separate the character from its external manifestations. What is outside, so is inside. Human psychology by behavior and gestures makes it possible to easily determine the character. Let's learn this as well.
The appearance of a person can say a lot
If a person's clothes are distinguished by their unusualness and pretentiousness, catchiness, then this speaks of an artistic type of personality, an artistic nature. There are people who neglect appearance. After talking with them, you can easily understand whether this is his creative attitude to life or banal slovenliness.
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If a person is dressed with a needle, as if he had just stepped off the catwalk, this often indicates that he wants to establish himself with the help of clothes. This is a sign of inner uncertainty and helplessness.
Appearance of a person should be in harmony with clothes, complement the image. Schizoid personality types do not adhere to this principle.
Bright colors in clothes are loved by emotional and loving people, and halftones are calm and balanced people. Often people who are hard to get used to and adapt to new circumstances wear clothes that are out of season.
Handshake
A handshake is a common form of dating men. If a person from afar comes to you with an outstretched hand, then we can say that he is cheerful and sociable, he does not hide anything behind his soul. If he still actively shakes your hand and speaks quickly, this is an active, energetic person.
Secretive people usually shake hands with the palm down and with a large bend of the arm at the elbow joint. Such a movement seems to say "I will not give anything back." Often such people turn out to be two-faced, ruthless. If your palm seems to be pressed down, then in front of you is a domineering, overwhelming and callous person.
A sluggish handshake speaks of laziness and lack of initiative. Shy and modest people shake hands awkwardly.
Communication zone
Human psychology by behavior helps to recognize people who are unpleasant and annoying.
Aggressive and unceremonious people are unpleasant in communication. They often break the allowed distance. You feel this subconsciously. They may pat you on the shoulder. Hold your hand for a long time or look into your eyes. If an unfamiliar person approaches you very close, less than 50 cm, then this causes a desire to move away, as well as anger and indignation.
Shy, insecure people keep a long distance.
The longer people communicate and become closer to each other, the distance between them decreases.
Posture, gait, gestures and facial expressions
Human psychology in terms of behavior and gestures is not always as simple and unambiguous as it might seem at first glance.
Since a person is brought up from childhood to adhere to certain rules and norms of behavior, it is sometimes very difficult to determine the character of a person. For example, it is difficult to judge by a smile what is happening in a person’s soul, because it can be real or “through tears”.
The duality of human nature also makes it difficult to understand him. If a person is soft and trouble-free, but does not want to seem like that, then he will accordingly behave differently and control his actions.
It is involuntary, unconscious movements that play an important role in understanding body language.
If a person has an asymmetrical face, then you can say. That the rational and the emotional are at odds with each other. When there is a constant internal struggle, remorse, it is very reflected on the face.
If a person has an unnatural, stiff gait (that is, legs, pelvis and lower back seem to be tightly connected), this indicates problems in the sexual sphere.
An important role is played by tension or relaxation of movements. When a person is relaxed, he rests his soul and is open to the perception of others.
The psychology of human behavior helps to determine character traits according to the main features:
- Carelessness and indiscipline are manifested by a lax gait, relaxed postures;
- Uncertainty and fearfulness are expressed in closed postures of arms and legs, hands in pockets or covering part of the face. Also, redness, intermittent voice give out a person who is unsure of himself. These people tend to constantly wind themselves up and make an elephant out of a fly;
- Nervousness, anxiety give out rhythmic movements of the fingers. Picking up objects, fidgeting in a chair.
- A wide and slow gait speaks of a person who wants to put himself on display. And the theatricality of gestures speaks of inflated self-esteem;
- Rectilinear and restrained movements speak of coldness, prudence of nature;
- Sharp and disordered movements speak of irritability, nervousness;
- If the movements of the body are rounded and smooth, this characterizes a person who is emotional and carefree about the world.
Eyes and gaze
Eyes reflect the inner world of a person. They are the first to react to the internal state. When we are sad, sadness appears in our eyes. If we have fun, then our eyes shine with happiness.
The look is also different. For example, hard, prickly, cold, angry, shameless, affectionate, gentle, gloomy, cunning, stubborn, confident, ferocious, excited ...
Any communication is accompanied by a look. If there is normal, calm communication, then the look will be the same. If the gaze goes into the distance, then the person is distracted or thoughtful. A sidelong glance expresses distrust, secrecy. Narrowed eyes express distrust, anger and revenge of nature.
Politicians often have such a picture when one eyebrow is raised. But the wrinkles on the forehead remain horizontal. This speaks of a strong will, neglect and hostility to the outside world.
Looking down speaks of arrogance and contempt. Conversely, a bottom-up look is about subordination and helpfulness.
A long, direct and firm look indicates that a person wants to subordinate you to his will. This is how investigators and prosecutors look during interrogations.
A "running" look characterizes people who feel fear or threat. Such eyes are often found in criminals who have spent a long time in prison, as well as scammers.
The psychology of a person by behavior and gestures sometimes helps to determine what profession a person has, what position he occupies and what social class he belongs to.
Face
When communicating, the face is the first thing you pay attention to. Here it is important to consider the nose, lips and folds near them. They will tell you a lot.
There is a so-called “suffering fold”, which gives a person a suffering facial expression. These are people with a weak character. Weak-willed, helpless and patient. Always retreating in the face of difficulties.
The strength of character is judged by the wings of the nose. If they swell strongly when breathing, then you have a temperamental and energetic person in front of you.
The corners of the mouth show the general condition of a person. The lowered corners betray a pessimist, eternally dissatisfied with life.
The degree of tension of a person shows a closed mouth. It speaks of determination and firmness of character. A slightly open mouth indicates relaxation, passivity.
Smile and laugh
All people smile and laugh differently. Laughter can be contagious, quiet, mocking, angry, sincere, barking, impudent, artificial, etc.
Pure carefree laughter shows an easy, free, laid-back nature.
If there is aggressiveness, envy, anger or contempt in a person, then these feelings prevent you from laughing easily and freely. It turns out something like "heh heh heh." Young people who want to draw attention to themselves usually "giggle". Laughter like "ho-ho-ho" seems to say: "Well, tell me too ...". It reflects arrogance, boasting, the desire to humiliate, doubt what was said.
Each person can judge the truth of a smile, relying on his intuition. She will tell you whether a person is pleasant or not, likes or dislikes, “slippery type” or “somehow he doesn’t smile like that.” Intuition rarely deceives. Human psychology by facial expressions makes it possible to determine, first of all, the sincerity of a person.
Posture
- Lowered or raised shoulders, along with a slightly stooped back and a retracted chin, speak of humility, weakness, a sense of inferiority of a person;
- Too highly raised head and protruding chest is a sign of pride, vanity and arrogance;
- A tense and immobile posture fences off sensitive and shy people from the outside world;
- Sometimes sensitive people try to hide it, outwardly showing rigidity, coldness, as if bristling at others. Then a certain angularity of posture appears;
- A person with self-esteem has a free, relaxed posture with a proudly planted head. This demonstrates trust, openness and respect for people.
Human psychology in behavior and gestures has been studied for many years. This science is called body language. The achievements of modern psychology in this area gave impetus to this direction, and the demand for this knowledge from a practical point of view prompted psychologists to further study the connection between the soul and the body. Since any of our inner experience, the movement of the soul causes a response in the body, facial expressions, gestures, movements.
Often we see all these external manifestations and our brain processes them instantly at the level of “pleasant - unpleasant”, “trustworthy - not trustworthy”, etc. After all, there are often situations in life when we say “something I don’t like about this person” or “what a slippery type he is”. That is, we do not know what caused such our reaction, but subconsciously we feel it. By trusting your intuition and learning a little body language, in everyday life you will be able to determine the character of a person at a glance.
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How to learn to understand people: the psychology of communication
Greetings, my dears! It is among people and it is impossible not to communicate with them. Is it possible to make this communication comfortable, pleasant and useful? Can. But how can this be achieved? Today I want to tell you how to learn to understand people, human psychology, body language, how not to get lost in someone else's subconscious and where to start.
To a foreign monastery without its charter
The first and most important rule - do not impose your opinion on other people. You should not try to convince others, explain their wrongness, insist on your truth. Remember one simple thing - each person has his own truth. Let's take a look at an example.
Masha doesn't like rain very much, because it ruins her hairstyle, which she spends great amount time. And Petya waits every time for rain, like manna from heaven, because he is engaged in gardening.
And when Masha meets Petya and they start talking about the weather, they always quarrel because of their different attitudes towards rain. Petya tries to convince Masha that the rain is wonderful, and Masha is the opposite.
All our “I want, I can, I wish” are different from others. If you understand that each person looks at things from his own special angle, then you will understand the pointlessness of disputes, you will begin to understand people better, start listening to them.
It is our view of things that prevents us from better understanding others. Each person has their own experience, set of knowledge and situations. If you learn to put it aside, try to look at the story through the eyes of the interlocutor, then there will be much more understanding between you.
I bring to your attention the book by Eric Berne “People who play games. Games People Play". In it you will find examples various stories and situations that will help you understand why acquaintances and others act the way they do and not otherwise.
Pantomime
Is it possible to learn to understand people by their gestures? Easy. This requires some effort on your part, but nothing is impossible. Does it happen to you that you feel what your friend is thinking without further ado? Or do you understand by the eyes what your loved one wants to say?
Often our body communicates much more information to others than our speech. When you look at a speaker, by what signs do you understand that he is worried, nervous? Or an unconscious feeling that the interlocutor is lying to you. Where does it come from?
To get started, I suggest you read the article "How to understand a person by gestures and facial expressions." In it you will find the basic poses, learn to distinguish between nervousness and shyness, and you will become better at understanding the sincere benevolence of a person.
Watch yourself and your gestures. Sometimes introspection is a great help in understanding other people. Notice in what situations you take closed poses. Try mirroring. The interlocutor feels great sympathy for the person who is sitting in the same position as him. Only it should be unobtrusive and invisible.
When you learn to understand a little gestures and facial expressions, then Alan and Barbara Pease's book "The New Body Language" will come in handy. In it you will find a huge number of examples, explanations and explanations.
Remember that it is not always possible to correctly understand a person with just one gesture. Try to look at the situation as a whole, look for additional little things that will help you pick up all the puzzles of the person’s image.
labyrinth
Sometimes it can be difficult to understand your own thoughts, let alone other people. Very often I hear the phrase: I do not understand my loved one; I want to communicate easily and naturally, but everything depends on misunderstanding. In order for communication to be pleasant and comfortable,
- try not to teach others life,
- do not give unnecessary advice, especially when it is not asked,
- do not insist on being right (reread the first part of the article),
- do not ask unnecessary and inappropriate questions,
- do not put the person in an uncomfortable position.
It all comes down to the fact that you need to be welcoming and friendly. I discuss this topic in more detail in the article "How to win over people." Agree, it is always nice to communicate with a person who smiles, friendly and benevolent.
In the article "How to manage people" I talk about several tricks that help you get your way from any person. These techniques perfectly show how people react in a given situation. This will greatly help you in understanding human psychology.
What skills help you communicate with people? Are you able to immediately determine that you are lying?
Learn to see the beauty in people. All the best!
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Human psychology by behavior
Many people do not even suspect that one can easily find out their true intentions and even thoughts, for which you just need to be able to analyze behavior. It is almost impossible to control this, since everything happens at a subconscious level. Human behavior and activities have been studied in psychology for a long time, which made it possible to draw the right conclusions. Today, everyone can learn the basics of non-verbal behavior, which will allow them to better understand others.
How to understand the psychology of a person by his behavior?
Scientists have found that body position, facial expressions and gestures are the same for people in most cases, which allows you to understand human psychology. It is important to simply learn to decipher all these signals.
Psychology of human behavior by facial expressions and gestures:
- If the interlocutor is well positioned, then his body will be slightly tilted forward, his head slightly raised and his gaze directed straight ahead.
- A negative attitude will be indicated by crossed arms, pursed lips, a tense body, and hard eye contact.
- When a person wants to defend himself and isolate himself from others, he subconsciously crosses his arms in front of him.
- Human psychology in terms of behavior suggests that clenched hands can be a signal of aggression.
- If during a greeting a person takes one hand and puts the other on his shoulder, then he either evaluates or tries to manipulate.
- When a person walks beside him with his head down, this is a signal that he is hiding something. Sometimes this behavior indicates his weaknesses.
- In most cases, raised eyebrows indicate that the person is currently experiencing discomfort. If he sharply brought them together - this is a symbol of tension or thoughtfulness.
- If the interlocutor crossed his legs, it means that he does not perceive what they say or resists what was said.
- A staggering leg may indicate a fuzzy position at the moment.
- When the interlocutor repeats gestures, it means that he trusts, and the conversation will have a positive direction. A similar trick should be used if you want to win over the interlocutor.
- An asymmetrical facial expression, such as smiling to one side, often expresses derision.
- If a person avoids eye contact, it means that he is embarrassed and feels uncomfortable. People who deceive also avert their eyes.
- The interlocutor folded his hands in the castle and threw one leg over the other - this may indicate a critical mood of a person.
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Human psychology, how to understand a person? - psychology and communication
Since ancient times, man has tried to understand his own kind, an inseparable part of any person's curiosity bordering on the hysteria of misunderstanding. Depending on the situation, the question of understanding a person in psychology is either less or more acute, but not for everyone! There are people about whom they say that they see a person through and through, they read him like an open book.
What guides people who see other people through?
No matter how strange it may sound, but first of all they rely on their intuition, supported by logic and life experience.
- In order to understand a person, it is necessary to build a logical chain of his motivations, to answer the question of what and why he does. Man is an extremely mercantile and selfish being, despite the fact that sometimes it seems to us that things are completely the other way around. Even the most kind and disinterested people receive public approval in return for their kind and disinterested deeds, which is the motivation for the latter, even more so, this is the goal of their life to receive approval for the deeds committed by them.
- Psychology is the science that studies behavior and thought processes people based on the life experience of the student. Life experience determines how this or that person will act in a certain situation, unless, of course, a person trying to understand another person has enough of that very experience to make any judgments.
- Intuition is something out of our understanding, there are theories that say that our subconscious is trying to help us by suggesting some sensations that, in theory, should turn the situation around in the best way for us. People with a highly developed intuition are not very bad at understanding other people's explanations for this. scientific point there is no vision, but people who have it comment on the situation as follows - "I seem to be transferred into the body of my interlocutor and from the inside I feel his motivations and emotions."
Having mastered all the above methods of understanding a person, you will learn to understand people with 100% result, and this, in turn, will help you establish the contacts you need, competently manage and manage people.
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Secrets of psychology. How to determine that a person is lying?
Unfortunately, in the life of each of us there is insincerity, deceit, lies. All of us at least once in our lives had to deceive someone or ourselves be deceived. This is done for various reasons. In order to somehow look significant in the eyes of the interlocutor, to evade any work, occupation, in order to avoid an unpleasant meeting or save someone from feelings and pain. It happens that a person lies aimlessly, it turns out spontaneously. As they say, he "carried". It is very difficult to communicate with such people, because you absolutely do not understand which of everything he tells you is true and which is fiction. As a result, your relationship comes to a standstill, when you can no longer trust a liar. He himself feels no better, because he understands how far he has gone in his lies, but at the same time he is simply unable to stop. Well, if there are no such people in your social circle, well, if you suddenly had to face them for any reason, then you just need to arm yourself with knowledge of psychology that will tell you how to determine that a person is lying.
So, what do we need to know in order to “bite through” a brazen liar. The most common gestures that will give out the false intentions of your interlocutor are covering your mouth with your hand when talking, scratching your nose, looking anywhere but in your eyes, rubbing your eyes.
And if the person you are talking to has also studied psychology articles and knows the same signs of a lie, carefully tries not to use them, in this case, how to recognize that a person is lying? There are several other methods proposed by psychologists. For example, usually when a person speaks, his eyes are directed to what he is currently talking about or thinking about. If he lies and says that it does not exist, he will look in an unknown direction, somewhere far away. From time to time, the gaze of the deceiver rushes to you, because he is very interested in your reaction, and especially in whether you revealed his skillful lie or not. The whole process of lying speech is accompanied by a distrustful position of the hands that cover the liar, betraying his fear of being exposed. Hands can be crossed on the chest, as if protecting from the interlocutor, they can often be brought to the face, eyes, covering them from the penetrating gaze of the listener.
The question of how to determine that a person is lying is more difficult to solve if the lie is not motivated by anything. Sometimes it is a sign of rich imagination, creative fantasy. Such a liar is to some extent a creator, and his goal is to arouse the interest of the listener, to amaze him with his story.
There are differences between liars of different sexes. For example, a woman often herself believes in what she lies to her friends sweetly and without remorse, just to look successful in their eyes, necessary both for herself and others. In this case, it is better not to deceive the deceiver clean water, since accusations of her lying can turn against the accuser.
How to determine if a person is lying when communicating via the Internet? Do you think that it is much more difficult to do this here, because you can’t see either his appearance, or his gestures, or facial expressions? To embellish our speech in writing, we usually use various spellings of the text, and how to determine that a person is lying is quite simple here.
Usually spammers' messages are full of words in bold or italics, words written in capital letters, in a color image. When this Internet purveyor of false advertising is caught lying, a vicious attack by the exposed liar begins. Communicating in in social networks, many also try to wishful thinking, endowing themselves with non-existent virtues. By these "beauties" and you can determine the liar. Other pseudo-psychologists go out of their way to soften potential interlocutors. And this desire also clearly betrays the untruth.
Now, communicating with people you know or new in your circle, you can definitely determine whether your interlocutor is lying or communicating frankly. How to determine that a person is lying, the advice of specialists in the field of human relations will help. Read literature on psychology - it is interesting and very useful.
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Colleague, friend, potential partner... The person is nice to you, but you do not fully understand what kind of person he is, how he will react to your vulnerability, can you trust him with a secret, ask for help? Psychological life hack websites are full of articles like “If you want to know someone, ask them 38 questions.” Imagine what it looks like: you sit a colleague or acquaintance across from you, ask him questions according to the list and carefully document the answers. How many will agree to this?
The other extreme is to consider that it is possible to unravel a person only after a few months or years of close communication. Coach John Alex Clark is sure: it's not about the amount of time, but about observation and willingness to link facts into a single chain. There are a few simple tricks that allow you to detect patterns in behavior and understand character.
1. Notice the details
Every day we perform thousands of routine actions: talking on the phone, buying food. People's actions can provide insight into their personality and help predict how they will behave in similar situations.
Example A. Someone who chooses the same dish every day in a restaurant may avoid change in life and dislike uncertainty. Such a person may turn out to be a faithful and devoted husband, but it will be difficult to convince him to move to another country or make a risky investment.
Example B. A person who enjoys gambling and other risky ventures is likely to take risks in other areas of life. For example, he may quit his job without finding a new one and not taking care of the financial "airbag".
Example C. A person who never forgets to look both ways before crossing a road may be cautious. He will carefully consider every decision before making it, and will only take calculated risks.
By analyzing a person's behavior in one area, you can evaluate how he will manifest himself in other areas of life.
2. Pay attention to communication methods
How does he communicate? Does he build relationships with everyone or single out the closest in spirit, and with the rest he tries to stay within the bounds of decency? Does he act on a whim, without a clear plan, is he guided by impressions or does he try to analyze everything, does not trust his instincts and strives to be objective? Is he more of a practitioner who lives in the world of facts, tasks, measurable values, or a thinker for whom ideas, concepts, schemes and images are important?
3. Discuss relationships at work with mutual friends
It seems that “washing the bones” is an empty and meaningless occupation. But the main thing is what qualities a person gives to others, how he interprets their motivations. Speaking of others, we most often notice what is in ourselves. Our personal “pantheon” can say what we value in people, whom we strive to be like, what qualities we are trying to change in ourselves.
The more often a person evaluates others as kind-hearted, happy, emotionally stable, or polite, the more likely they are to have these traits themselves. Reasoning like “yes, he’s just pretending, he’s digging a hole for someone” may mean that the interlocutor is prudent and understands only relationships built on profit.
4. Feel the boundaries
When we want to build a relationship, we look at the good and ignore the bad. But the illusions will dissipate and you will have to see the person in his entirety. Experienced communicators first of all look not for the good in the opponent, but for the boundaries of the good.
He is kind - where does his kindness end? Sincere - where will it start to get dark? Seeks to help - where will this desire end? Incorruptible up to what amount? Honest with clients up to what amount? Tolerant of the mistakes of subordinates until what point? Sober-minded, reasonable, adequate? Where is the button that turns him into a madman?
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Take a closer look at the person, evaluating. Pay attention to the eyes - their color, size and location in relation to the bridge of the nose can tell a lot about a person's character. Dark eyes give out a quick-tempered and emotionally explosive character in a person - such people are distinguished by sensuality, they are sociable and intelligent, witty and very selective in choosing friends. Light-eyed people are often dreamy, sentimental, and romantic. Saturated eye color (blue, green or dark gray) betrays romantic people, but often arrogant and arrogant. Small eyes are reserved, silent and gloomy, while big-eyed people often become leaders, they are courageous and sensual. Swollen eyelids distinguish people who are fond of and prone to a stormy pastime.
A person's behavior is the key to unraveling his character. Closed people who prefer loneliness and solitude are called. Their opposite is extroverts, who are open and generous with emotions, love noise and crowds. Secretive people can be melancholic or phlegmatic. Phlegmatic people are extremely slow, they think over their every action, and melancholic people often become depressed, sad and revel in self-pity. Active people are more likely to be choleric and sanguine. Cholerics are unrestrained and sharp, impulsive and absent-minded. Sanguine people are characterized by quick enthusiasm, which disappears just as quickly.
The appearance of a person and his figure can tell a lot about him. Low fat people they are sociable and talkative, it is easy to communicate with them, they have a good sense of humor. Well-built people of high or medium height are usually purposeful and assertive, striving to become leaders. Asthenics are rather fragile, unsociable and reserved, but they love power and are extremely ambitious.
If you have the opportunity to study the handwriting of a person, then you can get an idea of \u200b\u200bits owner. Energetic people have straight handwriting, stretching upwards. Capricious people usually do capital letters disproportionately large. And if the first letters are slightly higher than lowercase, then the person is modest and unassuming.
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In everyday life, we want something bright and unusual. I would like to see next to me a person who is interesting and mysterious, pleasant and unusual. And how can you recognize such a person from a crowd of inhabitants of a street procession and a rush every day to work, then from work. It turns out that addiction to certain fruits will help us get to know a person: his character and the principles by which he lives.
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- You need to know what kind of fruits your victim likes.
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Scientists have proven the existence of the sequence "fruit (vegetable) - human action." We should just take a closer look at those around us and compare, is it so? Yes, in most cases it is.
The first fruit that is widely distributed is the orange. Lovers of this fruit are always distinguished by their vigorous activity in the crowd. Easy going and quick to take action. They quickly converge with other people, although they can also quickly diverge.
Strawberry. These are people of an excellent mindset, they simply know how to negotiate with people about the thing or service they need. Flirting is their second bread. Therefore, men of this category are distinguished by their jealousy, sometimes this can develop into scandals. A girl who loves strawberries will do everything to break someone else's heart, or rather, she will not do anything, she will have plenty of admirers.
Grape. If a person of this type were a grape, then he would die of boredom, left alone, and not in a bunch. So it is for these people. They are afraid and often look for an outlet in something, sometimes it can be wine.
Banana. On the part of a girl or a young man, this fruit can only speak of their vulnerability and high feelings. With all their desire, they also achieve good success if they sacrifice themselves for the sake of the chosen cause.
Pear. People suffering from a shortage of pears in the shops of the city are very optimistic. These are just any "lighters", they can calmly turn on the crowd - at least for the continuation of the party, at least for a revolution in the city. And a girl who craves only pears may like the so-called "prince". For themselves, they are looking for a man who can protect her and, possibly, provide, at least with children.
Apple. This is a very reliable person. In his life, he tolerates only a well-developed plan of action, therefore he adheres to it all his life, figuratively speaking - this is a conservative. Apple women are the best mothers, and men with an apple in their pocket are wary of matters of the heart.
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To get a rough idea of a previously unfamiliar person, you should carefully peer into his face. Certain features of appearance indicate the presence in his character of certain features.
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Face shape. A round face indicates that its owner is a good-natured, gentle person. People with square faces are determined and self-confident, they crave fame and often succeed in their careers. A triangular face indicates that its owner is cunning, smart and resourceful. Such people rarely have real friends, because they do not value people. A face in the shape of a trapezoid indicates goodwill and character. The rectangular shape of the face betrays a practical, prudent, purposeful person.
Brows. Wide, thick eyebrows speak of the kindness and generosity of a person. Very often people with broad resoluteness, capable of rash acts, have a passion for various adventures. People with narrow eyebrows are often notorious, modest, kind-hearted. For them, it plays a big role. public opinion.
Eyes. Big eyes speak of openness of character. Narrow eyes characterize a person as closed in himself, uncommunicative. Eye color can also tell a lot. Green eyes characterize a person as passionate, jealous, always achieving their goals. Blue-eyed people are often unbalanced in themselves, for a long time they cannot find themselves and their place, by amorousness. Gray-eyed people are lucky, they are looking for profit everywhere. Brown-eyed people are very charming and loving. Their windiness goes away with age.
Nose shape. People with a correct, straight nose are very domineering. They strive for dominance and leadership in the family and in their careers. It is not easy to communicate with them. A hooked nose speaks of a person's cunning. But such people are very charming. Snub-nosed people love to spend money and do not know how to save, they are distinguished by an emotional, vulnerable character. People with a "potato" nose are cheerful and careless. A thin nose speaks of the romance and tenderness of its owner.
Lips. Narrow lips indicate that a person is able to lie, but he is very careful. If the corners of the lips are lowered down, this indicates that a person tends to fall into depression and melancholy. Plump lips are a symbol of sexuality, suppleness, softness.
Chin. A protruding chin indicates that a person has strong character, outstanding mind, great willpower. People "without a chin" are characterized by a weak character and inability to withstand life's difficulties.
Subconsciously, a person is always wary of everything new. Therefore, when communicating with strangers, we always try to determine their character and personal qualities, at least in appearance. Many believe that habits, character, and tastes are reflected in the way we look, dress, and behave. Even the physical data of a person can tell you what his character is.
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Another characteristic type- somatic. You will always recognize him by his tall stature, rough build, broad shoulders, large arms and legs. Most often, the skin of people of this type of appearance is swarthy. These are people of action, the consequences of which they think about only after it has been committed. This often affects their life, making it unpredictable. They strive for leadership and do not spare either themselves or those who stand in their way to achieve their goals.
"Cerobrotonic" - a type of people with a tall, thin physique. Their complexion is usually pale and the appearance is therefore often sickly and feeble. His appearance is the most "botanical", complemented by glasses. Many of these people are cut off from reality, hover in the clouds, live in their own, fictional world and really do not like to return to reality. Because of the fear of her, they can even set up a loved one, saving their “snail house”. Usually such people have few friends, since it is quite difficult to understand them.
There are a number of other signs that can tell you what kind of person you are dealing with, but, of course, they are not dogma. It is believed that people with dark eyes are more energetic, mobile and enterprising than light-eyed people. Light brown-eyed - diligent and hardworking, but dreamy and sensitive. People with dark brown eyes are distinguished by inconstancy, sociability and wit. Those with gray-green eyes are persistent and purposeful, they have a strong will and are quite tough with themselves and others. Blue-eyed people are decent, truthful and romantic, impulsive and quick-witted.
You can always check how this description matches the characters of people you know. You will be surprised how many matches there are. Develop observation in yourself, and it will be easier for you to communicate with those whom you see for the first time in your life.
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Tip 5: How to determine the character of a person by his behavior
Character - a set of mental traits that make up a person's personality. It manifests itself in the external actions of a person: actions, attitudes towards surrounding people and objects. In fact, it is impossible to define character by any other criterion than behavior.
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The defining feature of the character -. Psychologists believe that this trait does not change throughout life, but its intensity can change. The temperament system is based on the doctrine of two types of behavior - introverted and extraverted.
The character is determined by the external, a person avoids large noisy companies, limits the circle of friends to one or two people. An extrovert, on the contrary, is focused on the outside world, has a large number of contacts and acquaintances. The features of his character are expressed in behavior much more strongly than that of an introvert, since he is not used to hiding feelings and limiting external manifestations.
AT recent times some psychologists began to identify a third type of behavior - ambivert (lat. ambi - around). A person of this type feels equally comfortable in large and small companies, and in solitude. In his character, traits of both an introvert and.
An extrovert person is prone to impulsive behavior. Depending on the type of temperament (choleric or sanguine), he differs, respectively, in a greater or lesser reaction rate. It is difficult for such people to concentrate on monotonous work. Sanguine people tend to scatter energy on several things at once, and as a result, everything is thrown halfway. Cholerics for their intemperance often cause disapproval and irritation among introverts, especially phlegmatic people. Gesticulation of these two types is active and sweeping.
Introverts (phlegmatic and melancholic) at the first meeting give the impression of calmness and balance, since their external manifestations are restrained and almost invisible. Phlegmatic can be identified by slowness, reaching some lethargy, but for them such behavior is the norm, caused by the need to think about every step. In this regard, they experience such dislike for choleric people, who react to any event instantly, without hesitation and looking to the future. Melancholics are prone to self-pity, depression and blues, but reveal their experiences only in extreme cases and only to very close friends.
All people are different, and each has some kind of “zest”. By outward signs you can find out both the character of a person and his preferences. Also an important factor in determining the character of a person is his gait. So, let's consider what kind of gaits and characters people have.
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People with a dancing gait are considered forgetful, frivolous, often changing their sexual partners. These are pretty hard to rely on.
Immersed in their thoughts, uncommunicative are people who have an uncertain step. Such people do not want to attract undue attention to themselves and are not confident in themselves.
Unceremonious, unrestrained people walk with a ringing gait, distinctly clattering their heels. Such a gait is by no means an indicator; it indicates that the person, most likely, on the contrary, is not self-confident. Such people often change sexual partners.
Hands hanging motionless when walking and a heavy gait, on the contrary, speak of a weak-willed, boring person. Such people are boring both in life and in bed.
Poor people who are accustomed to and accustomed to poverty have a trembling step. They are bad lovers, a monotonous life is their credo.
A small step betrays people who are pedantic and picky. They are uncommunicative, because communication with them does not give great pleasure.
Cheerful in character, but at the same time very annoying people who, when walking, put their heels inward. Such people are very attentive to everything around them.
So, without looking into a person “into the soul”, one can fully learn about his character only by his gait.
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Intuition helps to feel what a person really is, despite how he tries to present himself to others. It is difficult for people who do not have insight to adequately identify a person by appearance, whether he is a familiar person or a beginner. They evaluate the interlocutor superficially, in appearance, in demeanor and behavior. Connoisseurs of "clothes" do not know if a person is sincere in communication. If you wish, you can learn to understand what is hidden behind appearance a person, how he is configured and what he is thinking about at the moment.
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Carefully observe the movements, facial expressions, gestures of the opponent. Congenital, genetic or acquired, they tell about inner world master, because they are made instinctively. Non-verbal conveys their emotions and feelings. And no matter how hard a person tries, no matter what kind of artist he is, the habit will still unconsciously pop out.
Immediately upon meeting or meeting, pay attention to the gestures of a person. Be sure that a person who constantly touches his watch, purse, jacket floors, etc. with one hand or who shakes his hand at the tips of his fingers during a greeting, feels insecure and insecure. The palm is the most powerful non-verbal signal. During the greeting, the outstretched arms and open palms show that their owner, the "shirt-guy", is ready to communicate sincerely and honestly. A person hiding his palms under his armpits or in his pockets is clearly trying to hide something. If during a handshake your hand is turned palm down, then they want to express superiority and dominance. Take the vertical position of the palms during a handshake as trust and respect. Aggression and cruelty is manifested in a handshake with a "crunch". The wet and cold palm of the welcoming person will give out a weak one, even if he entered with a cheerful, confident step.
Take a closer look at the interlocutor during the conversation. A person’s facial expressions and gestures during a conversation will tell you at what point a person is telling a lie, intrigued by the conversation, whether he agrees with you. As Dr. Desmond Morris noted, American scientists, studying the behavior of nurses, came to the conclusion that those who lied to the patient about his condition raised their hands to their faces, those who spoke the truth almost never did so. Hands raised to the face is the main gesture of deception. The speaker covers his mouth with his palm, touches the tip of his nose, rubs his eyelids, turns his eyes away - be, most likely, a liar or an exaggerator in front of you.
Support and convince the good intentions of the person who put his finger in his mouth. Understand that he is looking for support and approval from you, even if he calmly, without tears, talks about something. Interlocked fingers speak of a person's self-confidence. However, whitened bones on the fingers from a strong clutch warn of hostility or depression.
Look closely into the eyes of the interlocutor. Eyes tell a lot about a person and become signals in the process of communication. The pupils dilate with and constrict with irritability. Consider a reliable and responsible person whose gaze is kept at the level of your eyes and in the zone of the "third" eye. Lowered, just below your eyes, look, speaks of a friendly attitude. A sidelong glance combined with raised eyebrows and a smile is a signal of interest. Frowning and flattened eyebrows, lowered corners of the mouth, a sidelong glance express suspicion, criticism or hostility.
Make no mistake, you bored yourself with your story or speech if the listener rested his head on his hand. But tapping fingers on the table or feet on the floor, understand as the impatience of a person. People rubbing the back of their head and neck are most often critical and negative. Chin stroking - basically a gesture of evaluation, decision making. Follow the gaze of the participant in the conversation. If he decides to end the discussion, he involuntarily turns his whole body or directs his legs towards the nearest exit.
In order to feel comfortable with a person, and not get into an awkward position, take a closer look at a few gestures, habits, postures, because sometimes closed eyes speak of fatigue, and not of a person’s arrogance. It is impossible to learn and correctly evaluate all the signs that speak of a person's appearance. Consideration should be given to many various factors, inconsistency of body movements and facial expressions, and only then make conclusions regarding the definition of a person by appearance.
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A person's physical handicap or disability significantly affects a person's appearance, gestures, and movements.
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Interpret observations of gestures, facial expressions, postures, depending on the situation, in conjunction with other non-verbal signals given by a person at the same time. After all, scratching the back of the head can mean both dandruff and lies.
In life, you meet new people almost every day. This happens both at work and at home. Communication with a stranger is always difficult, because you do not know how he can react to your words, how he will behave in this or that situation. According to psychologists, you can understand the character of a person by some external signs, including gait. We hope that the ability to evaluate a person by the way he walks will be useful to you.
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The characteristic manner of moving can tell a lot, even about his sexual preferences. Successful, self-confident people move freely and uninhibited. While walking, their body is relaxed, but the step itself is light and springy. This one walks with his shoulders squared, his head slightly raised and his chin slightly pushed forward. Once in bed with you, he will conquer you with ardor and pressure.
A woman who is self-confident and aware that she is being admired keeps her posture well, slightly lowering her shoulders, bringing her shoulder blades together and turning her chest. At the same time, she tries not to turn her body around in order to look at something, but is limited to turning her head. Even if she walks in heels, she moves gracefully and swiftly.
The gait of a distracted and forgetful person, whether a woman or a man, dancing a little. When looking at him, one gets the feeling that the music he hears sounds to him alone, and he moves in its rhythm. It is difficult for such a person to concentrate, he often forgets not only his promises, but also the information that he recently received from you. Usually, such people do not delve into the problems of others, preferring to immediately forget about them. In bed, they are busy only with their own experiences and pleasure.
A crouching, as it were, gait with an emphasis on the toe can characterize a person as modest and does not like to draw attention to his person. Often he is unsociable, closed in himself, gloomy, suspicious and taciturn. He is a misanthrope and especially does not deceive himself at anyone's expense, he is careful with connections and acquaintances, he prefers to start communication only after receiving preliminary recommendations. His behavior in bed is quite monotonous and boring.
A measured, unhurried, as if "floating" gait is inherent in self-confident, calm people. They are rational and smart, use these qualities, always making balanced and thoughtful decisions. Impulsivity is alien to them, and it is almost impossible to piss them off. Often they are overly conservative, prefer classic style and in art. If he is really in love, then in bed he can be passionate, although even here he will prefer traditional sex.
You yourself can continue this classification, based on an analysis of the behavior and manner of movement of your acquaintances. Using this knowledge, at the first meeting you will be able to form an opinion about any person, his character traits and passions.
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Advice 9: How to determine the character of a person by appearance
The question of influence appearance man on his character worries people for a very long time. One of the first to attempt to establish this relationship was the German psychiatrist and psychologist Ernest Kretschmer. In accordance with his classification, three main body types can be distinguished, each of which corresponds to a certain socio-psychological type.
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"Picnics"
As a rule, these are obese people of short stature, owners of short and full limbs, a round head sitting on a short neck, and a broad face with soft features.
Usually people with this body type are cheerful, energetic, sociable and talkative. They have a good sense of humor and easily survive the hardships of life. Despite the fact that people of this type do not seek to gain authority and are indifferent to power, they easily defend their own position. Moreover, they do it calmly and without “losing face”. They strive to build their relationships with people according to a certain scheme that is convenient for them, and easily achieve this.
"Athletics"
These are people with well-developed muscles and skeleton. As a rule - average or high growth. They have a wide chest, powerful shoulders, narrow hips, long and dense limbs. The facial bones are convex.
"Athletics" have assertiveness and purposefulness. They are leaders and always strive to dominate. Very active and sociable. Athletes need to be in the spotlight. They stubbornly go to the goal and practically do not consider the opinions and feelings of other people. Quite quick-tempered and impulsive.
"Asthenics"
People of the asthenic type usually have a fairly fragile physique. They have narrow shoulders, long and thin limbs, an elongated and flat chest. The face of the "asthenics" is slightly elongated, and the skin is thin and pale.
These people are closed and uncommunicative. They are prone to contemplation and reflection. Usually, they have aristocratic manners. At the same time, "asthenics" are very ambitious and painfully proud. They strive for recognition and take failure hard. This type of people is characterized by such qualities as authoritativeness, selfishness and emotional coldness.
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- "Body structure and character", E. Kretschmer, Eksmo, 2003
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Tip 10: How to determine the character of a person by his behavior
The character of a person is reflected in his behavior, communication with other people. And the sooner you understand and see it, the easier it will be to build relationships with the person you are interested in.
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Determine the type of character. The character is made up of the traits of his personality, it affects the behavior of a person. And that is the best indicator. People are divided into two main types - extroverts and. They are easy to identify: always closed, refuses noisy companies, prefers loneliness. An extrovert is his complete opposite - he loves the noise and the crowd, always in the spotlight, not afraid to show emotions. Having decided on the type, pay attention to its behavior in detail to confirm the correct choice.
Introverts are represented by melancholic and phlegmatic people. Both those and others at first glance seem calm, people. Introverts are closed, closed from prying eyes, do not show emotions. With further acquaintance, you will notice sadness in them, a depressive mood, they constantly feel sorry for themselves, but they will never tell you about it. All of these apply to . But, despite such a deplorable state, they will never share their feelings with you. Phlegmatic people are somewhat similar to melancholic people, but they are distinguished by extreme slowness in actions, gait, reasoning and speech. They think carefully about the action they are going to take, try to stay at home so as not to face too much active people which they just can't keep up with.
Extroverts are sanguine and choleric. Both types are prone to activity and some impulsiveness, they are scattered, cannot concentrate on one thing and often refuse monotonous work. Their movements are active, somewhat abrupt. Cholerics are distinguished by intemperance, sharpness. Sanguine people are easy to discern in relation to business - they try to take on as much as possible, do all the work at the same time, but in the end they do not have enough energy and they give up everything at once, without completing a single undertaking.
At a young age, everyone has fantasies, expectations, fears and ideas imposed by TV and the Internet about how boys and girls should behave in communication. This often prevents building a truly harmonious and joyful relationship.
Every girl has been in a situation where a guy likes, but he does not show much signs of sympathy. You really want to attract his attention, as well as be sure that you will not be rejected and you will not find yourself in a stupid situation. So how do you understand that a guy likes you if he behaves with restraint, or you don’t see him as often as you would like?
In contact with
The most important rule that every girl should understand is that guys are quite simple in life. They do not like to complicate anything, come up with complex moves, strategies, intrigues to conquer the object of their dreams. If he likes a girl, he will tell her about it directly, or will provide indirect signs of attention to let her know about his claims.
Often a girl is embarrassed to ask older women (mothers, sisters, aunts) "how to understand if a guy likes me." Peers, due to little experience, also do not know how to win his favor. But there is nothing complicated or top-secret about it.
Many young people are still boys at heart, who make it clear about their sympathy by pulling the pigtails of girls. At an older age, instead of pigtails and blows with a briefcase on the head, sharp jokes, jokes, often offensive and rude, are used. If you see that some guy “does not give you a pass”, trying to “pin up” or somehow pry, understand: he is interested in you and he needs your reaction. You need to understand: he wants you to pay attention to him.
Maybe he hides his feelings?
The most important thing about how to understand if a guy likes you is to look at his actions. Many people can't always understand the non-verbal cues that guys send. Another reason for the difficulty in determining personal likes and dislikes is the fantasies that all young people and girls between the ages of 14 and 20 are prone to.
Many girls draw their ideas about the opposite sex from films, TV shows, books, magazines and other sources where fiction prevails. This is very important to understand. Some of the stereotypical stories romance novels have nothing to do with reality, but it is their girls who most often project onto familiar guys.
Let's look at which of these stereotypes are usually always wrong in reality.
Secret admirer, or the real James Bond
Imagine: you like a guy who behaves with indifference to you or whom you see quite rarely. Many girls who like a guy in such a situation tend to come up with an imaginary image of a certain James Bond.
They may fantasize that their subject is with great skill. Outwardly, this looks like indifference on his part.
We'll have to upset you and dispel this illusion: a guy who behaves indifferently, and in fact is indifferent to you. AT ordinary life even the most shy, constrained or insecure young man makes it clear that he is interested in you.
delayed love
This situation is a bit similar to the previous one, except that communication between the girl and the guy is completely absent. For example, a girl may only see a guy in the mornings at the bus stop or in the school corridor among high school students.
Most often, all that makes girls think about how to understand that a guy likes you if you are not communicating is a rare eye contact.
If a girl likes a young man, then she may imagine that he is also interested, but does not dare to take the first step. But in fact, everything is much simpler.
Usually men are attracted to women with whom they have more than eye contact. There should be communication in which the girl shows her best qualities. Most often, romantic relationships occur in the same company. If this is not about you with your object of dreams, then the chances that he secretly dreams about you, but does not dare to approach, are extremely small.
This does not mean that the guy could not appreciate you from a distance. Young people always notice attractive girls, noting the merits of their appearance, figure, etc. Your subject could also notice and appreciate you. But if you know that you are in his field of vision for a long time, but he does not make any attempts to approach you, then you need to understand that you are not particularly interested in him.
So how do you know if a guy likes you or not? When a girl is not indifferent, the guy will try to approach her as much as his self-esteem, upbringing, communication skills with the opposite sex allow. This is the easiest way to understand that a guy likes a girl.
If, after meeting you, a young man began to visit your company more often, often appears in your sight, starts small talk with you, tries to joke, be clever in your presence, then this indicates his sympathy for you.
And vice versa: if a guy doesn’t really try to communicate with you, goes about his business / friends / company, doesn’t distinguish you from other girls he knows, then you need to understand: you haven’t captured his heart yet.
How to understand what you like?
It’s normal for a girl to want confidence that she didn’t imagine, but a spark really ran between her and a new acquaintance. So how can a girl understand if a guy likes her for sure? In different situations, there are different signs of sympathy for you from a guy.
By correspondence
Social networks are one of the popular tools for understanding the attitude of the object of sympathy towards you. There is nothing reprehensible for a girl to write to a guy first, to make a friend request. After all, you do not immediately make it clear about your feelings. It's just an introduction.
You can limit yourself to neutral phrases like “Hello”, “How are you?” or ask something on the topic of conversation when meeting (for example, ask him to throw him the name of the movie he was talking about).
We give a hint on how to understand by correspondence that a guy likes you. If the most difficult thing - the beginning of communication - has already been completed, now the ball, as they say, is on his side. According to your communication with him on VKontakte, you can pass a small test - do you like the guy you like.
- ... the young man willingly asks counter questions (“how are you doing?”, “what are you doing?”);
- … the ratio of his and your messages is more than 50/50 in his favor;
- ... he writes first after the previous conversation has exhausted itself, suggests new topics;
- ... the guy is trying to have philosophical conversations, trying to seem smart, joking;
- … a young person likes your posts and comments;
- … dumps music, movies, links on your wall;
- … tags you in photos with friends;
- … willingly comments on your posts;
- ... new people have been added to you - friends of this young man.
If at least four out of ten of these points correspond to his behavior, then the question of how to understand if a pen pal in VK likes you will no longer bother you. And so everything is obvious.
At school
How to understand that a guy likes you at school, any girl seeks to find out. Everyone has an object of sympathy among classmates or high school students. By his actions, you can understand the attitude towards you, just observe. Young people have two strategies for dealing with girls they care about. A guy who is more confident in himself and his abilities will provide positive signs of attention:
- say hello first when you appear;
- start a conversation on topics that interest you;
- sit down with you at the same desk;
- come to change;
- feed something.
All these are direct signs of his sympathy for you, and in this way the guy wants to establish a full contact with you and makes it clear that he wants more from you than just friendship. He may not say directly “I like you”, but his desire to be there, communicate, somehow help already make it clear about his feelings better than any words.
There are also negative signs of attention that are provided by young people who are not very confident in themselves or who have a past not very successful experience of communicating with a girl. His behavior will be dominated by the desire to show in every way that you are indifferent to him, but he will do it emphatically and even feignedly:
- diligently avoid eye contact with you (hide your eyes, turn away);
- talk in a company with everyone except you;
- shut up and frown if you start talking to him yourself;
- to speak emphatically sharply and even rudely, although they did not give reasons for this.
This is an easy way to understand that a guy likes you if he hides it. This model of behavior with the object of desire is also familiar to girls who, for some reason, are sure that they will not be able to please. But sympathy is usually stronger, and even an insecure young man wants to see a girl who excites his heart. If a guy is hostile to you, but is still nearby, then you can understand that he likes you, but he desperately resists his feelings.
How to distinguish fantasy from reality?
In connection with the above, girls sometimes have difficulty understanding that a guy likes you, but he hides his feelings. It is important not to confuse non-verbal attentions with negative connotations with indifference. Don't try to see something that isn't really there.
A guy who doesn't care about a girl:
- behaves in her presence in the same way as in the company of his male friends;
- does not try to attract her attention, surprise;
- does not seek her approval through jokes or clever stories;
- does not show signs of respect for her as a girl (in her presence she can swear, make obscene jokes, even if she knows that she will not like it);
- does not try to look in her eyes better than it actually is.
In other words, if his behavior does not change in any way with you (in a positive or negative way), then most likely he does not think about you.
If you don't communicate
Many girls are interested in how to understand if a guy likes you if you do not communicate. This may be a high school student or a student from another stream. If you saw him several times, and he saw you, but communication did not happen, then you can understand that the guy is not interested in you. Otherwise, he would approach you or do something to get your attention.
But if you saw a young man for the first time and want to understand what impression you are making on him at the moment, you can check him on several points. To understand everything, you need to catch non-verbal signals.
It is easy to understand how he behaves if a guy likes a girl:
- eye contact - he looks in your direction;
- if everyone in the company laughed at some kind of joke, then the guy at that moment is looking at you;
- his movements become more sweeping;
- he starts talking/laughing louder, making noise.
Each person always seeks approval from someone who is interesting to him. If someone in the company joked funny, causing laughter, then this is the best moment to see who sympathizes with whom. Each person, while laughing, looks at the one whose approval is important to him - this is the law of psychology and the easiest way to understand that a guy likes you. When everyone laughs, and he looks at you, then this should tell you quite unambiguously: he likes you.
Elements of non-verbal psychology
Psychology gives effective advice how to understand that a guy likes you by his behavior. There are many non-verbal indicators of overt sympathy.
We offer a small test on how to understand if a guy likes you:
- he begins to get involved in the same things as you, and does it in such a way that you see it (for example, he begins to collect information on his VKontakte wall about your favorite musical group);
- strives to match your ideas about how you should look / dress / cut / behave a real man(for example, if you in the company announced that you love guys with a fashionable haircut, then the guy makes himself the same);
- learns the same skills as you (for example, learns to ride a skateboard, if you are fond of this sport);
- in your presence refuses rude and vulgar jokes, even if it is customary in his company to behave this way;
- tries to be useful to you (for example, finds and sends you links to materials for an essay).
If at least two of these signs of sympathy are present in his behavior, then everything is very simple to understand: he is secretly in love with you.
Look, eyes
Usually a girl knows how to understand by the eyes that a guy likes you. Everything is quite simple here: each person tends to look at the object of desire as often as possible.
The sight of a girl you like triggers the release of endorphins in the brain, which trigger the pleasure response. Therefore, a guy who likes you will involuntarily look at you more often than at other people.
How do you know by looking that a guy likes you? Eye contact can occur in different ways:
- the young man stares at you;
- when you speak, he looks at your lips;
- when he speaks, he looks into his eyes.
There is another simple way to understand by looking that a guy likes you. Sometimes shy young people begin to “play peepers”: you see with peripheral vision that he is looking at you, but as soon as you turn your head in his direction, he quickly looks away / lowers his eyes or turns away. Usually only this gives a sure hint that the guy likes you.
Gestures
There is one simple secret of how to understand by gestures that a guy likes you. Loud speech, as well as sharp and sweeping movements of a guy in the presence of a girl, are manifestations of the ancient instincts of procreation. Male primates, in order to attract the attention of a female, perform a kind of dance during mating games, moving sharply and actively.
In men, this also often works at the subconscious level. When you see that in your presence a guy starts waving his arms, makes various somersaults, makes sudden movements, accidentally drops something, and his speech becomes louder, then everything can be understood without words. He is instinctively trying to get your attention.
Poses
On a subconscious level, we always strive to hug and touch the one we like. If a guy likes a girl, then you can understand this by the position of his body.
The main signs of sympathy at the level of the body can be called:
- the desire to reduce the physical distance (the guy tries to get as close as possible);
- standing or sitting next to you, the young man spreads his arms wide (for example, puts his straightened arm on the back of the sofa at the level of your neck);
- during the conversation, the guy leans with one hand on the wall, blocking you.
All poses with arms wide open make it clear that the guy on a subconscious level wants to hug you.
Test: do you like the guy you like
Young guys 14-19 years old are not always able to express their feelings directly, but they never miss a chance to prove themselves in the presence of a girl they like and make it clear about their sympathy. How to understand that a guy likes you? A simple test will help you with this.
Answer "yes" if the statement is true:
- A guy after meeting is more often in your field of vision. For example, he comes to the same bus stop as you, although before that he got on at a different stop, or, under some pretext, seeks to join your company.
- The young man finds pretexts to ask you something, calls on some issues that theoretically he could solve himself.
- The guy is trying to make you laugh, telling jokes, anecdotes and carefully watching your reaction.
- He is trying to "pin" you, just for the sake of causing a reaction, even if it is negative.
- The guy is trying to attract the attention of the whole company, doing some bold (in his opinion) actions, although under normal conditions it is not common for him to be in the center of events.
If you answered “yes” at least in three cases, then everything is obvious: you are clearly not indifferent to him.
The simplest thing is to be in his field of vision, to communicate in the same company with him. In informal and relaxed communication, each of us has every chance to express ourselves and our personal qualities that attract people.
As the experience of generations shows, the more naturally and naturally a woman behaves, the more chances she has to win the sympathy of her object of dreams. That's all there is to understand about relationships. Drop any pretense, do not try to pretend to be someone that you really are not - all this is visible from the outside and usually repels people.
For a guy to fall in love with you, you don't need to do anything special to get his attention. Enough:
- be friendly, smile, not be silent, joke in the company;
- do not do too bright makeup, look natural;
- not be constrained, overly clamped, shy;
- have your own interests, hobbies, hobbies - you must live your interesting and eventful life, and not be in the waiting mode that someone will find and love you;
- show interest in the guy, his affairs and hobbies, try to understand his problems and sorrows, but do not overdo it.
Useful video
If, after reading everything, you still have some doubts about what a guy feels for you, then the video below will help to completely dispel them:
Conclusion
- If a girl has something to share, something to tell, something to surprise and captivate, then she will always be worthy of attention.
- Don't sit around and wait for someone to finally show up to love you. You need to understand: this is how you lose valuable time that you could devote to yourself, to your development.
- Young people don't like girls who are too relationship oriented, too eager to please and tie a young man to them.
- Be self-sufficient, be satisfied with yourself and your life, have a wide range of interests, do not withdraw into yourself, communicate with different people- and guys will always show interest in you.
The question of how to understand another stranger or loved one is asked by many. The next question is: “Why understand others?” Everything is very simple. Understanding other people helps to adapt to the changing conditions of life, convey your thoughts and desires to another person, so as not to offend or prick. The answer to the question helps to find psychology. How to learn to understand people? What are the main tasks of psychology?
Where does the information come from?
To learn how to perceive information, you need to clearly know where it comes from and what is its immediate carrier. To read information about another person, you need to use:
- facial expressions;
- plasticity and body movements;
- content of speech and spoken words.
How to understand by the face?
First of all, when communicating with another person, you pay attention to the face. It is from him that you can very quickly understand emotional condition interlocutor. The face is completely different: funny, smart, perspicacious, cunning.
There is an opinion that only a person is considered the most accurate source for reading information. In fact, this is not entirely true, since it is easy to manage the state of the face if desired. Only professionals are able to thoroughly read the emotions of a person by micro-movements of the eyes, lips, and so on.
Body
According to many experts, the source of information leakage is directly the human body. In many situations, the interlocutor is able to control his emotions on his face, but at the same time he is unlikely to be able to hide them on his body.
First of all, gait can tell about the internal state of a person. It is unique for everyone, which is why any change in a person can be understood.
- The heaviest gait in a state of anger.
- If a person feels his importance and a sense of pride, then his step will be wide.
- With great experiences, a person practically does not move his hands.
- But in a happy state, the body seems to soar and fly above the ground.
It is not always possible to notice the emotional state of the interlocutor by body gestures. Most often, it is hidden under clothes, in a state carried away by one's problems, it is not possible to notice clenched fists, tapping fingers, rocking feet. How to understand a person by his behavior? Psychology clearly says that it often reports an emotional state.
Meaning of words
With a person’s speech, everything is quite simple, since you hear, perceive and analyze the words, but after all, a person does not always tell the truth, pronounce it to the very end.
Very often you can come across a lie. Also sometimes there are problems with vocabulary when it is not possible to express all desires.
It turns out that with the help of words, body or facial expressions it is impossible to fully express, and even more so understand another person. How, then, to understand others? Everything is very simple. To feel the excitement and feelings of another person, you just need to put yourself in the place of the interlocutor, feel the state of the other, take into account the behavior and reactions.
It is this simple truth that is so often forgotten and not used. No one thinks about the condition of others, solving only their own problems. It turns out that close people are deaf to problems, which causes reciprocal indifference and misunderstanding.
Three main theories of relationship psychology
To better understand strangers, you should remember the general aspects of the psychology of people and relationships. After all, human behavior also depends on the characteristics of the psyche. They will help to find the answer to the question “How to understand a person?” books on psychology, various theories. A large number of theories that have studied these issues reveal psychological aspects. To the frequent question “Why do people not understand each other?” psychology is able to give an answer, since it has long dealt with the main causes of phenomena closely related to it.
Dunbar number
Researcher Robin Dunbar devoted a lot of time to studying the relationship between the activity of most of the cerebral cortex (neocortex) and social behavior.
Observations were first made on large groups of primates against the background of their social behavior. Studies have shown that the larger the surface of the neocortex, the more individuals in their communication, there are noticeable connections and patterns.
In the study of people, the theory was confirmed. It was found that every person has a social circle. Some persons from it are very close people with whom a constant connection is maintained. Most often there are about 12 of them. Also have social group, which includes 150 people. Communication with these people is constantly maintained, maybe rare. Gradually, old ties weaken, go away altogether. Therefore, you should not be offended if a person stopped communicating over time, which means that he has someone new.
Why know Dunbar's number?
The value of the Dunbar number will be useful for people who work in the field of marketing. Knowing this feature of the brain of potential buyers, it is easier to understand and accept refusal. After all, if a person has time to communicate with a marketer at work, then he will need to refuse one of the 150.
Hanlon's Razor
The simple joke saying “Never attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity” belongs to Robert Hanlon, who has published more than one collection of such statements. The only thing that can be corrected in this statement is to replace the word "stupidity" with "ignorance". It is the lack of a complete picture of what is happening that affects a person's perception of any events. Therefore, first of all, you should understand the situation and assess the cause of what happened.
For example, an e-mail message was received from a colleague with obvious criticism of an idea or a proposed project. At first glance it may seem that this was done with malice, but perhaps there was a simple misunderstanding of each other. Banal ignorance in this matter can cause a conflict situation.
Herzberg Motivational Factors
This theory can help in communicating with colleagues or friends. How to understand a person? Psychology will always tell you, even if the behavior is strange and inexplicable. The theory is that job satisfaction and dissatisfaction are not ends of the same straight line. She argues that job dissatisfaction is due to many reasons. These include:
- features of management and company policy;
- working conditions;
- control;
- interpersonal interactions in the team;
- wages;
- safety;
- the status of a person in the workplace.
It turns out that if they are not there, then there is dissatisfaction. But this does not mean that if they are present, there will be satisfaction. Most often, satisfaction does not depend on them, but on another group of reasons, which are called "motivation". These include:
- confession;
- success and career growth;
- achievements;
- the work itself and the work process;
- opportunities for self-realization.
From such a theory it follows that you can work in a prestigious, highly paid job, but at the same time feel very bad because of the relationships in the team, your small significance, lack of responsibility. And sometimes a person holds a position with a small salary, but at the same time he is in demand, his work is appreciated, and he is extremely happy about it. He enthusiastically goes to work every morning.
First of all, it will be useful for heads of departments and companies in order to understand psychological condition team. This will help people who want to leave a high-paying job, because often they hear: “You are mad with fat, what else do you need with such a salary?” This will help you understand the person. How does psychology interpret such a command? She calls not to condemn for an act alien to herself.
How to build relationships with other people, how to understand a person? Psychology defines these questions as the most difficult tasks in life. Do not ignore the study of books. Numerous works will help you learn how to communicate with people and tell you how to understand that this is your person, psychology evaluates many life situations. Professional psychologists offer some tips to help you communicate.
- Each person always thinks that he is doing the right thing, therefore, in order to understand him, you should look at the situation from a different angle.
- Each person has their own point of view and behavior on any situation. Do not think that your solution to the problem is the only correct one. You need to leave other people willing to do as they see fit.
- You shouldn't take everything to heart. First of all, when communicating, it is necessary to really realize that the other person is sure that he is right.
- Do not think that the interlocutor knows how the other person feels at this moment. He may not even know how the spoken words affect anything. How to understand a person? Psychology can help you sort things out.
- Everyone has their own world of perception and range of feelings, so it is worth considering that the other person has their own thoughts and feelings.
- To begin to understand other people better, you can try to take an observant position. If you just watch a person and watch his behavior, then you can better begin to understand the world around you.
Relations
How to understand that a person likes you? Psychology will help to deal with this issue.
To begin with, it is worthwhile to understand that a person who cares about another always shows an interest in the latter: in his / her conversations, topics and problems covered. This is an attempt to get closer on something in common.
Physical contact is not in everyone, but in many cases (like stroking the arm, touching the shoulder) can serve as another signal.
Although, frankly speaking, in order to understand that one person likes another, you need to have very serious psychological knowledge and possess the same skills (which the majority of the population cannot boast of).
Finally
If you perceive each person as part of one big family, then you can significantly simplify life and the process of communication. The ability to understand other people is a way to significantly simplify your life and teach you how to communicate with others.
It is only important to be attentive to the people who are important to you. It is trite to hear what they say, moreover, to understand what they say and what meaning they carry in their speeches (it is not always obvious, so you need to learn to understand the real messages of people). Then, with a high probability, understanding between people will improve, and this will give its positive results.
It would also be useful to study specialized literature, which will form the necessary psychological knowledge base.