How to survive a stressful situation in a personal. How to recover from severe stress and remove the consequences
Stress can negatively affect the body, so first you need to calm down and accept the situation. Realize that this has already happened and you can not change the past. But it is quite possible to influence the future. After the emotions pass, you can start looking for the right option to resolve the kurtosis.
Stress negatively affects the body
Psychophysiological stress in the family
How to cope with stress in the family:
- Switch your attention to your family. Talk to your mother or father, go to the cinema, theater with them. Just walk around the city and talk about abstract topics, remember your childhood. Look around and pay attention to pleasant little things: beautiful flowers, good weather, sunshine. Feel the presence native person near. Stress will recede and it will be easier to survive it.
- Arrange an unexpected holiday for the child. Take him to the circus or the zoo. Invite his friends over. Cook something tasty for them. Get involved in the game with them, take up drawing, assembling the constructor. Invite your child to update his room, decorate it with new accessories that he chooses. In the process of communicating with children, you will get a lot of positive emotions that will block emotional stress.
- Grab a pen and paper and describe your problem. Write everything that worries you at the moment, in detail: the situation and the reason, your emotions. Remember this is not piece of art, and the output is negative energy. Feelings and words that for some reason cannot be expressed aloud will be taken over by paper. Don't care what form it will be in. After you finish the work and put the written sheet on the table, imagine that the problem has moved from the body to the paper. Now it must be destroyed. Burn the leaf or tear it into small pieces and discard. This psychological method sure to help you survive stressful situation.
- Get on with your daily activities. Home monotonous work will help out a lot during a period of emotional overstrain. Make a plan for work for the week or for the day, do a spring cleaning or a big wash, audit your kitchen, garage or workshop. During labor activity imagine that along with the garbage, all the bad things go out of life. This makes trouble much easier to deal with.
- Be tolerant of family members. Try to ignore their shortcomings. If you want to speak, first count to ten and take deep breaths in and out. This breathing practice is very calming.
- The problem needs to be analyzed. Try to understand why this stressful situation happened, what is the reason for the contention. It is possible that the issue can be resolved peacefully: to ask for forgiveness from each other for intemperance. This position will help you understand exactly how to survive stress and build relationships.
Be sure to believe that everything will end well. Thoughts are material.
Quiet, pleasant music and a warm bath will help you relax. Light a candle and look at the flame for a while. Fire and water perfectly restore mental and physical strength.
How to deal with stress after losing a loved one
After the loss of a loved one, it is better not to be alone. It will be more difficult to cope with grief on your own, so do not refuse the help of loved ones. Take light sedatives - valerian or motherwort.
Let go of your feelings, cry. Talk to family and friends. Remember the bright moments of communication with the departed. Consider that such losses are inevitable, but life goes on. And remember - it takes time for the pain of loss to subside.
It will be much easier if you connect with others who have experienced the same grief. This will give you strength to get through the tribulation period.
Loneliness is not an option after losing a loved one.
How to learn to deal with stress
Some tips to help you deal with stress:
- Look at the situation from the other side. You do not need to constantly mentally scroll through the events that caused stress in your head, the situation may worsen. Try to “dress” the circumstances on someone you know, look at the situation from the outside, and then give advice on how to resolve it. The sooner you do this, the better.
- In some cases, you should not share your grief with everyone. It won't help get rid of it. This is a personal pain, and you will have to decide how to survive stress on your own. Learn to put a smile on your face and feign the absence of problems. After all, talking about stressful circumstances, you again experience negative emotions.
- Focus on the positives. Finding yourself in a tense relationship with a person who caused negative emotions, draw a conclusion: a close, trusting relationship with him is no longer possible. This will make you think, and next time you will be more selective in choosing friends.
- Don't get used to being alone. Do not sit within four walls. Change your image, buy a new thing, dye your hair, meet new people, then there will not be enough time for stress.
- Take care of things that you put off until later. View old, favorite photos. Such an activity will help you immerse yourself in the past and cause positive emotions. And objects reminiscent of a recent experience, throw away or put away.
- Share with a loved one. Share grief with a friend, "cry into her vest." Maybe she will tell you how to survive stress. It is more difficult for the strong sex. They were taught from childhood: men don't cry. The way out of negative energy can be given by going in for sports. Fatigue will allow the body to switch.
- It's good to have a furry friend at home. When there is an animal nearby, it is much easier to withstand stress. Four-legged helpers always accurately guess the mood and help to survive a difficult moment, even just being nearby. It is worth considering and getting a pet.
- Do not forget that life consists of pleasant events. Celebrate good moments: recognition of merit; receiving a gift that you have long dreamed of; unexpected meeting with old friends.
- Take time off or leave. A change of scenery is beneficial and a good distraction from current problems.
Vacation is a great stress reliever.
Watch your nutrition. Eat more vitamins and limit the amount of unhealthy foods, especially salt. Its excess affects the work of the adrenal glands, which can increase the release of stress hormones.
Get some sleep. Sleep well restores strength and helps to survive stress.
Go in for sports, yoga or increase the time of walking in the fresh air. People who lead an active lifestyle are better adapted to stressful situations. In addition, sport teaches a person to breathe correctly. This is the best sedative.
If the process is delayed, seek help from a specialist. In severe cases, the doctor will prescribe sedatives.
Anger, envy, resentment will bring nothing but illness. They destroy the body and soul. Believe in the good and remember, a bright streak in life will definitely come.
The life of a developing person is arranged in such a way that new peaks and horizons are very often revealed precisely through stress and crisis. Development is always a sinusoid: either you are at its peak, and everything is going in the best way, or it plunges you to the bottom, and it seems to you that you cannot survive this.
The idea that development is such a smooth upward path is very pleasant, but utopian.
The crisis is required process growth and expansion of human mental capacity.
Without it, development, unfortunately, is impossible.
Look at your life: it certainly seemed from time to time that you would never endure some moments, but looking back from the present, you understand that everything is not so scary. This means that your mental capacity has increased, and you can now bear and experience even more.
In this article, we will not talk about how crises are needed and useful, but about that lowest point of the sinusoid, when it seems that you don’t need such a development, that everything is meaningless, the pain covers your eyes with tears, it’s hard to breathe from stress, and fear so paralyzes the body that you want to curl up and not get up, not talk, not move, and sometimes just die.
We all visit this point from time to time - this is an exam and a transition to a new level.
Such a state comes through different triggers: fired from work, parted with a loved one, disappointed in herself, lost hope, humiliated, caught in an injury, or just dead tired of fighting for her happiness and I want to spit and send everything to the devil.
This is such a test from life: how ready we are to go further, how determined we are in achieving our dreams, how much we really want to be whole and mature, happy and conscious.
And if at the point of crisis we decide to leave everything and fall, then we will roll back not even to the previous level, but much lower. No wonder they say: "The higher you fly, the harder it is to fall."
But sometimes, due to unbearable inner pain, we are already indifferent to what will happen next ... And here we make many mistakes, and fatal ones, which are then very difficult to correct.
Let's figure out how to survive the point of crisis, with the intention, instead of falling lower, on the contrary, to believe in yourself and rise from the ashes.
I will describe some psychological and energetic tips that will help you overcome the crisis and develop healthy habits of responding to such situations.
Give yourself time to feel
Don't run from your feelings, acknowledge them and live.
When we find ourselves in a painful situation, by any means we want to get out of there as soon as possible. At such moments, people are more likely to run to psychologists, dive headlong into work, switch to the life of children and girlfriends ... You can still surrender to religion and read prayers, or, in the worst case, drown the pain in wine. All this switches, helps to distract, but drives the pain even deeper into the subconscious, forming a fear of overcoming and development.
It is important to understand that pain comes to make us stronger and energetically wider - in the future, this width and depth will let in new opportunities.
Now I am doing choreography with a teacher in order to get a third education, and in the classroom this principle is very clearly visible: the choreographer stretches me to extreme point patience, when it hurts unbearably, and fixes me in this position. I breathe, yell, cry, swear, but after a couple of minutes I find that the muscles are used to it, and it doesn’t hurt so much anymore. And then he stretches a few centimeters more, I again yell, squeal, cry and get used to it again. And in the next lesson, this stretching is already possible for me on my own with almost no pain, and we again take a new height.
This is the principle of development not only of the body, but also of the psyche, so if we immediately run away from pain, then we deprive ourselves of its useful revealing component, which means that this lesson will have to be repeated so that you can no longer escape.
Therefore, the very first thing we must do, and it will be very difficult, is to let this pain and these feelings pass through us.
Don't run into psychological practices, to girlfriends, to psychologists, but just stop and give yourself time to feel this pain. It might take a day or two, that's fine.
Worrying does not mean deliberately winding yourself up, dramatizing, hypertrophying emotions, going into hysterics with shouts: “ I will never again...", - not at all. To experience is simply to let emotions be.
During these periods, feelings need to be allowed to manifest consciously, so it is very important to cry, howl, whine, wallow, tremble in horror and show everything that asks from the inside. It is this living that is the condition for expanding the energy capacity.
The worst thing we can do is to overwhelm ourselves with sedatives or "will" power. It is in moments of self-suppression that injuries and blocks are formed, which are then so difficult to get rid of. If there are children at home, and it seems to you that it is harmful for them, then this is a deep delusion: by suppressing ourselves and pretending, we teach children the same thing. Therefore, in this case, it is reasonable to voice the child: “ Mommy is very sick and sad right now. It's not because of you, baby, but I really need to cry so that I feel better, so that my mother smiles and rejoices again!»
Moaning promotes relaxation by engaging your entire body in a steady, rhythmic movement. First of all, since moaning requires deep, stable diaphragmatic breathing, maximum oxygen is delivered to all corners of your body. Moaning also produces powerful vibrations in your body that act like a massage from within. As you continue to moan deeply and become more and more relaxed as you do so, you may feel your moaning vibrate not only in your throat, but also in your stomach, chest, and sometimes even your sinuses. As a rule, physical relaxation is the state of the body in which it best begins to heal itself. Moaning is a very valuable tool for relieving pressure built up at work and in human relationships, if people have no other options or no choice.
(PhD Luis Savary)
It is also very important to express feelings as much as possible physically, crying and moaning are especially good helpers.
Crying takes away nervous tension. It turned out that “the so-called tears of pain remove catecholamines from the body - substances that increase the level of stress in the body. And yes, crying can help you relax. After a short energetic inhalation, a long exhalation follows - a similar type of breathing can be found in many Eastern practices. It helps lower blood pressure, slows down the heartbeat, and promotes relaxation. That is why, after prolonged sobs, a state of relief and euphoria comes.
The habit of holding back tears leads to internal tension and unmotivated outbursts of aggression.
Screams and groans during pain help reduce discomfort, as they affect the transmission of pain impulses from various organs of the body to the brain. Thus, as a result of crying, the level of pain decreases.
Connect your body
If the body is also connected to the experience of pain, then this will be a great help in dealing with stress.
Why is it important to connect the body? The field structures of our body and consciousness directly interact with the energy inside the body, and if we physically block our body, then at the energy level we break our field structures, and they can no longer function normally to attract well-being and our desires: they only strengthen and increase the energy of the pledged block, attracting the negative.
Therefore, it helps miraculously in living intuitive movement: to do what the body feels by amplifying it.
For example, you want to curl up and not move - you lie down and curl up as much as it is physically possible, to the point of pain in the muscles. After such an effort, a sharp phase of relaxation follows: the body cannot be at the peak of tension for too long. The body relaxes and the energy flows through it without forming distortions at the field level.
Or, for example, you want to sit down, take your knees and swing (a typical stress reaction: body swaying is an indicator of the movement of energy) - you sit down and swing, first at your own pace, then shrink and swing with a greater amplitude, until you feel full of it state.
Someone can stay in a stressful position in peak tension for an hour, and someone - only five minutes, everything is individual here. The main thing is to listen to your body and follow it. If you feel like walking, walk, don't force yourself to sit down and calm down.
The more body you connect, the more experiences will leave your head, the faster you will pass the peak of stress.
You know, there are two main types of people who experience stress. Some get hysterical, they yell, yell, run around the house, cry, fight in fits, and two days later they get on their feet and go on with their lives. The second type of people calmly meets stress, without showing any emotions, they courageously go through it, solve the main tasks, calm the rest of the participants in stress, look reasonable and adequate, but as soon as the situation is resolved, after a couple of days or weeks they have a microstroke, or turn gray hair, or the hormonal system goes to hell.
These are yin-type reactions and yang-type reactions. Usually the first type is women: "Oh my God, we're all going to die!" And the second type, most often, is found among men who silently solve problems. As you know, according to statistics, on average, men die ten years earlier than women.
IN modern world and women react in a yang way, restraining themselves, solving problems, but this only harms us.
Stress Management Rule #1: Give yourself time and the right to experience pain.
Breathe
The human body is predominantly made up of water, which, in turn, is 33.3% air. While we breathe deeply, energy circulates in the body, filling us with strength and life. A characteristic stress syndrome is short shallow breathing, which supplies oxygen only to the brain and heart in case of a life threat.
As a psychologist, I often see that people who have experienced severe stress, but have not been able to get out of it and have formed a trauma for themselves, very often barely breathe. Their breathing is almost imperceptible, quiet, barely alive. It debilitates us and supports our blocks.
Start breathing deeply. Your first attempts at deep breathing may break into crying, screaming, returning to pain, and this is normal, because this is how the block goes away. Dizziness is also a normal primary reaction, if you generally breathe shallowly all your life.
At least a couple of times a day, track how you breathe and move on to deep breathing. Deep breathing regulates the activity of the parasympathetic nervous system, causing relaxation: the heart slows down its rhythm, and inner world filled with peace.
Deep breathing also relieves tension from the muscles due to the uniform supply of oxygen, and the production of cortisol and adrenaline stops. At the level of the body and emotions, the state is replaced by a balanced one.
Do the usual things
Sometimes, in moments of stress, it seems to us that our life has been razed to the ground and that we will never live the way we used to. The severity of the crisis is that we can no longer live as before, but we still do not know how to live differently. Being in this buffer zone, it seems to us that our life has been completely turned upside down.
There is the magic of doing simple things that bring us back to the feeling that life goes on. Simple daily activities will remind you that life goes on.
Therefore, it is very important to return to your daily rituals - this will give the mind peace: brush your teeth, wash your hair, do makeup, brew your favorite tea, return to the gym, clean the house, go to kindergarten or school for a child.
Even if at first you do it mechanically, your mind will become calmer from the fact that it understands at least some of the events that will occur: “ Yes, I will wash my hair tomorrow, brush my teeth, put on a dress… Of course, I will not go to this job anymore / I will wake up without this man… But my life goes on!»
If there are no events on the horizon of the mind, it thinks that this is the end and we die. And this is the way to depression.
Get rid of trash
A rather strange recommendation from the point of view of psychology, but very understandable from the point of view of energy. The more unnecessary things, people, events are in your field, the more energy they draw on themselves, because we spend energy on connection with every thing and every event. Throwing away the excess means cutting off unnecessary energy connections and regaining your energy, which will help you get through stress.
Remember that state when the house is clean and there is nothing superfluous? It is immediately easier to breathe, strength, energy, motivation, a feeling of renewal come.
The less garbage, the more energy for your dreams, desires and overcoming. This also applies to unnecessary friends who may feel sorry for you, gossip, and collect heavy energy.
Get moving
Do not let yourself freeze for a long time, keep moving in the literal sense of the word. Leave your car at home and go about your business on foot. Walking turns on the adaptive functions of the body and helps to rebuild in accordance with the changes in life.
Walking, running, stretching, dancing, or just intuitive stretching will help you get back into your body.
Most of our problems are in the head, and when we return to the body, we begin to realize the surmountability and temporality of what is happening.
drink water
Stress causes dehydration and further worsens the state of the body and emotions. Be sure to drink water, because during times of stress, the body works in a special metabolic mode, and it needs support in the form of drinking.
There are a lot of stress hormones in the blood, and water helps to remove them.
Do not make efforts to harm
« I have to force myself to eat!»
« You have to force yourself to go on a date with someone else!»
« You have to force yourself to smile!»
All this will subsequently cause you only disgust and rejection.
If you can’t get involved in something in any way, and the body rejects it with all its might, then you don’t have to force it and mock yourself. Let the body starve, and the soul - to be cleansed by loneliness before future relationships. Otherwise, you will then have to heal from additional blocks, the most popular of which is Pierrot's smile. This is when a person, getting into a difficult emotional experience, laughs or talks about him with a smile, although it is clear that inside everything is torn from pain.
I have great amount clients who talk about the monstrous things from their lives and at the same time smile. When they have tears in their eyes, they smile. When they are in pain, they smile.
Someone might think that this is the quality of a strong personality, but in fact, this incongruence is simply scary for adequate people. Imagine: a person with a smile will tell you about the death of a loved one or about his shock in life ... This is also a repression trauma, and it is formed precisely by the installation: “ I won't show anyone how bad I am. I will smile!»
Any ambiguity only complicates life, and the clown mask takes a huge amount of energy.
Be Conscious
In stress, we really want to hide in the position of the victim, distort reality, lie to ourselves, convince ourselves of something to make it easier to survive.
For example, you can blame someone, look for someone to blame, say that life is unfair to you, justify yourself with your ignorance and weakness. Of course, this self-deception will save you for a while and will not be so offensive. But lies will alienate you from yourself, will form destructive scenarios inside you and destroy them later. Therefore, from the very beginning it is very important to remain aware and just live your crisis.
What does it mean to "keep mindful"?
This means dealing with facts, not speculation.
Yes, they fired me, yes, my husband left, yes, someone close to me left the body ... Yes, it hurts a lot, yes, my heart breaks, yes, it’s impossible to find a place for myself. But you don't have to say: She's prettier, that's why he left» / « I'm not so young, how is she!» / « I just don't need anyone...» / « He never gave me anything!" etc.
This, as you yourself understand, is a complete nonsense of mental self-pity.
Mindfulness is when we interact with reality, and not with rollers from our mind.
Being aware means being able to accept the past and relate to the present.
« Yes, in the past, this person was very valuable to me and brought a lot of happiness into my life, but now our relationship has become different, and it destroys my integrity, so I choose to leave! is sober thinking without depreciation.
Unfortunately, usually people devalue everything: “ Now I understand what kind of person you are, and II thought... but in fact, that's what you turned out to be!“So we cross out the experience of our past, its significance, which means that we will be forced to learn this again and go through it again. Therefore, try to interact with real things during stress, and not your phantoms and ghosts from your head.
One lost battle does not mean a lost war! »
If you have a stubborn character, then this is especially wonderful in this case - a powerful energy release occurs during a crisis, and if you say to yourself with stubborn persistence: “ Yes, this happened, but I will still be happy, create a family, I will get high and enjoy!', it will definitely come true.
If you have a big list of dreams, then it will support you a lot, motivate you. If these are real dreams and desires, they will not let you fall - on the contrary, they will fill you with energy to overcome difficulties.
Thank you and wish you well
The most powerful thing you can do to rise to the next level after a crisis is with those who hurt you! Imagine these people smiling and happy, full of life and material prosperity, with a smile on your face and all the blessings in earthly life.
With this practice, we write off on the subtle plane the root causes of the formation of new negative karma, we form field structures aimed at prosperity and abundance.
The energy principle of this practice is that what we radiate increases.
If we radiate this to low-frequency people, and they cannot accept this, then the energy forms for them the opportunity to expand to the required capacity through overcoming, and this energy of happiness and prosperity returns to you as a rebound.
If your stress is not related to certain people, then still find negative low-frequency people and wish them happiness.
In addition, it is very important to give thanks. Life does not give anything other than experience and wisdom, so any situation with the right review is always pluses. Learn to see the good even in the most difficult situation, thank God for believing in you so much that he gives such tests. Experiencing - it means that a great miracle is preparing ahead!
Believe in this and make it your basic life intention: " Everything that happens to me makes me happier, prettier, sexier and richer!- or whatever you like.
Remember, this won't always be the case.
Day will change into night, spring will be followed by summer, life will go on anyway.
And your task is to find your place in it and have fun!
Stress is an essential part of our lives. Often makes it difficult for us to work, and this causes bad emotions that can lead to fatigue and adversely affect health. What can you do to better deal with stress?
stress you need to know
First of all, it is worth considering what situations at work cause stress? If you say that you do not want to remember them, then be prepared for the fact that such an attitude will lead to increased fear and stress. "Dimension" stress leads to the fact that we become stronger and get a modicum of immunity from it.
Write out stress to batteries
In addition, there are many ways stress relief and unpleasant emotions. The most effective is physical activity . Exercising will relieve tension in the body, and regular repetition of certain exercises helps to calm down.
So, after a busy day at work, rather dive into the pool, get on a bike or go to the gym.
Avoid alcohol
It would seem that alcoholic drinks allow relieve tension. But, at the same time, it is easy to get addicted, especially if you often “fill in” your stress.
Alcohol disrupts the metabolism in the body, and this deprives us of the strength to resist tenacious claws. stress.
Also pay attention to "seizing" difficult situations. A balanced diet and good eating habits are another key to health and resistance to stress.
Looking for pleasure
Think also about what gives you pleasure? Devoting yourself hobby and state recreation we destroy all tensions in the body.
For some it will be reading books, listening to your favorite music, for others it will be crazy dancing in a club or meeting friends. Don't forget also about laughter! This is another effective weapon in stress management.
Learn to rest
Of course, there are many different relaxation methods who help us overcome stress. Pay attention to yoga breathing exercises, listen to music, or have a spa session in your home bathroom.
Generally speaking, it's worth creating your own oasis of calm to which you can escape after a hard day's work and gain energy to level out harmful effects of stress on our body.
The best way to deal with stress is to eliminate the cause, which is to honestly answer the question: what causes stress in you? How we explain someone's negative behavior depends on how we feel about it.
Is there stress or not?
It is human nature to proceed in their judgments from the feelings that he experiences. It often happens that it is easier to remember losses than achievements. But in order to objectively look at last year, you need to remember both losses and achievements. Even small achievements can be a step towards something bigger next year.
How does this distortion of thinking or perception of behavior work in case of negative behavior or negative results, losses? In the case when a person feels weak and helpless, he can cause two types of reactions of himself or reactions from others: condemnation or sympathy. Behind the condemnation is the belief that the causes of problems are the internal dispositions of the individual ( personal qualities, motives or attitudes). Behind sympathy is the idea that external, situational circumstances lie behind failures.
But neither one nor the other approach is essentially objective. An objective view involves understanding and recognizing internal and external reality.
Consequences of too stressful circumstances
Stress is our body's response to the demands placed on it. A little stress is a favorable factor for activity, but a lot of stress drains your body and relationships. Stress becomes a problem - distress - when there is too much or too little. Lack of stress means that our body is not stimulated enough, we feel bored and isolated.
A lot of stress, on the other hand, can cause a number of health problems, including headaches, indigestion, high blood pressure, and even stroke or heart disease. It often causes us to feel distrust, anger, anxiety and fear, which in turn can destroy relationships both at home and at work.
People often feel overwhelmed as a result of some event or factor that triggers stress. They don't have to be negative (such as the death of someone we loved, unemployment, or divorce), they can also look pleasant (a new partner, a new job, or a vacation). Such feelings can be acute (as a result of bereavement or dismissal) or chronic (coinciding with long-term unemployment or being in a bad relationship).
It is difficult to say whether by the end of the year a person really feels especially tired or is he just winding himself up like that. I would rather see the causes of fatigue in insufficient care for myself, my physical, mental and social well-being: lack of sleep or other rest, ignoring the need for treatment, playing sports, caring for close and intimate relationships. Here, rather in question about healthy egoism, when a person, taking care of himself, becomes able to take care of another.
Separately, I want to say that the social inclusion of a person helps to overcome stress, namely, maintaining contacts with family, friends, volunteering or doing social activities. Of course, this works when these relationships with people are sincere, filled with common interests, warmth, security and support, and not disappointments and anxieties.
The support of the family or those people who replace it, of course, plays the most important role. These relationships should normally serve as support, that is, bring the feeling that with loved ones, by sharing the pain, you can feel relief, and by sharing the joy, increase it. Therefore, if the relationship brings more pain and disappointment, it makes sense to seek psychotherapeutic help. This enables a person to influence relationships in such a way as to consciously build satisfying relationships and “make lemonade out of lemons.”
(Not) fast recovery
Any rapid recovery is fraught with at least exhaustion, the next step is usually the exacerbation of existing diseases or the formation of new ones. Therefore, a quick recovery is possible when a person is not too exhausted yet, has the resources for a good rest, which brings relief. Very often it may be that life outwardly looks complete, but in fact a person does not feel enough warmth, security, understanding, closeness in a relationship - this may be the reason that it is difficult to recover quickly, although it would seem that there is no reason for this . This dissatisfaction in relationships, seemingly excessive demands for wealth, responsibilities, can be an "invisible cause of stress." Like parents for children, so our family, friends perform the function of regulating emotional tension, unpleasant and joyful feelings. There are many ways to deal with stress:
healthy sleep and delicious food;
meditation and relaxation, especially on a regular basis - makes it possible to synchronize feelings, sensations in the body and thoughts;
massage, sports, physical labor that brings pleasure;
creative work with hands;
art classes, including independent creativity or trips to the theater, cinema, museums;
restoration of relationships with close and dear people.
It is important to understand that in order to overcome stress, you need to: first, connect the care of the body to relieve excessive stress; the second is to restore or maintain relationships with loved ones to ensure the regulation of emotions and communicative implementation.
Children and stress
The best way to help a child learn how to regulate stress and how to cope with it is, of course, the example of parents and their ability to communicate in the family. This allows from childhood to compensate for the displeasure of the child from parting with his family to attend kindergarten / school and his better adaptation to them, and also allows you to compensate for the possible lack and sincerity of communication with parents throughout everyday life. To achieve this goal, family rituals are very good. spending time together in any form, whether it be family dinners, trips and anything else.
Depression, apathy, increased nervousness or, conversely, a breakdown are symptoms of nervous overexertion. How to survive stress is described in numerous sources in medicine and psychology.
Causes and types of stress
The causes of overvoltage can be different. The simplest is excessive exercise. They are exacerbated by lack of sleep and eating disorders. This type of stress is called physiological.
The next type is psychological. It is associated with problems in relations with other people, inability to establish contact, conflicts in the team. Such situations can develop not only at work. Many people suffer from the fact that they do not know how to survive stress in the family.
A related concept is emotional stress. Often it goes hand in hand with the psychological. It is associated with the experience of violent emotions. The peculiarity of this type is that it can be caused by both negative and positive experiences. The reaction of the body in this case is expressed in the inability to concentrate, an increased rate of speech, trembling in the hands, sweating. Reactions such as vomiting or loss of consciousness are possible.
Information stress is associated with the fact that a person is not able to make a decision due to the abundance of information or, conversely, due to its absence. This type is often accompanied by increased excitability, headache, craving for nicotine.
The cause of managerial stress is the inability to bear responsibility or too much anxiety about an overwhelming task taken on. This type is typical for people with a hypertrophied sense of duty. Trying to fulfill his obligations, such a person is able to bring himself to nervous exhaustion.
The reasons for this reaction of the body may be different. For some, this is work-related stress. People often suffer from the monotony of the tasks they perform or, conversely, from the need to switch to new tasks too often. This group of causes includes lack of rest and sleep disturbances.
In second place is the unfavorable atmosphere in the team. Especially harmful is the latent conflict, which exists unnoticed by others. In this case, the tension between employees is exacerbated by the need to hide the conflict.
The competitive atmosphere is also facilitated by the conditions of competition, which are often specially created in the workplace at the initiative of management. Rivalry gradually leads to nervous exhaustion.
Another source of overvoltage is the conflicting demands of superiors. Often employees are put in a situation where they have to tell customers one thing and do another.
Personal causes are among the most traumatic. They are associated with the loss of a loved one, troubles in personal life (divorce or separation), illness. In complicated forms, the result of such trauma may be apathy, addiction to alcohol, refusal to eat, suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts.
Stress, like any other reaction, is manageable. People differ in their susceptibility to difficult situations. Some are able to endure hardships because they have good adaptability. Others become hysterical or depressed.
Everyone needs to learn how to survive severe stress, since such a reaction of the body can occur at a time when a person is least prepared for it.
There are many ways to deal with a stressful situation. The approach should be chosen depending on the type of personality and character. Choleric and sanguine people are suitable for active actions. It is especially useful to switch to another type of work or leisure. The main principle is fundamental changes.
Melancholic and phlegmatic people will suit a decrease in the pace of activity. Quiet rest is optimal: fishing, walking, reading, staying in the fresh air. These methods are especially effective if you follow the daily routine and diet. The main principle is peace of thoughts and feelings, the absence of emotional "outbursts".
How to strengthen the nervous system
In a difficult situation, the body needs more energy. However, this only applies to spiritual energy. You should not "jam" experiences with chocolate or pastries. Apathy is accompanied by suppression of appetite only on the first day. Then the appetite returns to normal, and there is a risk of gaining extra pounds.
There is a strong stereotype that nervous overexertion stimulates metabolism due to the release of adrenaline and increased blood circulation. However, it is not. On the contrary, with strong feelings metabolic processes slow down in the body. Therefore, it is necessary to deal with stress in advance. Methods should be psychological and not related to increasing the calorie content of food.
You should take care of a healthy lifestyle and daily routine, ensure proper sleep and moderate physical activity. It will strengthen the body and transfer physiological stress.